Do you think you tend to be drawn to negativity?
How do you stop invasive negative thoughts?
I've been catching myself living out arguments in my head a lot. The worst part is about 2 seconds after recognizing that I am doing it, I'll be right back at it. I tell myself why it's a bad thing to be fixated on it but I can't seem to stop. I haven't figured out the next step to limit how often it occurs. The only time I don't is when I'm reading something technical or when I'm super focused on a task. Have you guys figured out any ways to deal with it? Why is it easier to spread negativity and harder to spread positivity?
To the same effect, why is it when people try to spread positive it’s seen as cheesy, dumb, or ineffective? I’ve begun to expect and accept negativity in my daily life, but it’s kind of sad. I'm an insanely negative person. How do I fix it?
I have a fairly negative mindset. I genuinely don't understand how people can be positive, look at the bright side of life, etc. I'm trying to do that more often and it's a challenge. My mind just likes to go to the worst case scenario first. I also have conversations about plenty of negative topics, and I'm worried it will drive people away. For example, I complain about lots of things, whether that be politics or the professor of a class I share with someone I'm talking to. I like to bring up downer topics, and I find it very hard to let go of the mindset that downer topics are better topics to talk about because they're so "deep". I'm also interested in a lot of negative, sad and/or tragic stuff and I find myself drawn to it. My latest "thing" has been watching plane crash documentaries. I could probably tell you the details on at least 5 plane crashes with 50+ fatalities right now. I've loved anything related to disasters all my life, I think I was around 7 when my dad showed me and my brother clips from documentaries on the Challenger explosion on YouTube, and I've been hooked ever since. I like documentaries about serial killers, all kinds of disasters, etc. I like researching about diseases, the more deadly the disease, the better. When I was 9, I used to play veterinarian and made up fictional diseases for the animals.
If I had to choose between 2 videos to watch, one titled "best movies of 2021" and one titled "worst movies of 2021", I would choose the latter, because I would have a ton of fun listening to that guy bash these movies. I think you get the idea. So, how do I stop living in a cloud of negativity and deliberately exposing myself to it? How do I become like all those inspiring people who love life and care about a lot of positive, uplifting, interesting stuff like space exploration and the ocean clean-up project? How do I stop walking around thinking that the world is shit and it's better if an asteroid strikes the damn thing (that's a bit of an exaggeration, but a few years ago I would have probably agreed with that statement)? How do I start enjoying life and having a positive outlook? Is that even possible or are these people faking it? Why does it seem that being negative is way easier then staying positive? Why does our brains tend to recall bad memories and make us in a bad mood rather than recall good memories and make us in a good mood more often? Negative news is more often published than positive news because on average. humans tend to react more strongly to negative information, according to a new, global study.
I've been catching myself living out arguments in my head a lot. The worst part is about 2 seconds after recognizing that I am doing it, I'll be right back at it. I tell myself why it's a bad thing to be fixated on it but I can't seem to stop. I haven't figured out the next step to limit how often it occurs. The only time I don't is when I'm reading something technical or when I'm super focused on a task. Have you guys figured out any ways to deal with it? Why is it easier to spread negativity and harder to spread positivity?
To the same effect, why is it when people try to spread positive it’s seen as cheesy, dumb, or ineffective? I’ve begun to expect and accept negativity in my daily life, but it’s kind of sad. I'm an insanely negative person. How do I fix it?
I have a fairly negative mindset. I genuinely don't understand how people can be positive, look at the bright side of life, etc. I'm trying to do that more often and it's a challenge. My mind just likes to go to the worst case scenario first. I also have conversations about plenty of negative topics, and I'm worried it will drive people away. For example, I complain about lots of things, whether that be politics or the professor of a class I share with someone I'm talking to. I like to bring up downer topics, and I find it very hard to let go of the mindset that downer topics are better topics to talk about because they're so "deep". I'm also interested in a lot of negative, sad and/or tragic stuff and I find myself drawn to it. My latest "thing" has been watching plane crash documentaries. I could probably tell you the details on at least 5 plane crashes with 50+ fatalities right now. I've loved anything related to disasters all my life, I think I was around 7 when my dad showed me and my brother clips from documentaries on the Challenger explosion on YouTube, and I've been hooked ever since. I like documentaries about serial killers, all kinds of disasters, etc. I like researching about diseases, the more deadly the disease, the better. When I was 9, I used to play veterinarian and made up fictional diseases for the animals.
If I had to choose between 2 videos to watch, one titled "best movies of 2021" and one titled "worst movies of 2021", I would choose the latter, because I would have a ton of fun listening to that guy bash these movies. I think you get the idea. So, how do I stop living in a cloud of negativity and deliberately exposing myself to it? How do I become like all those inspiring people who love life and care about a lot of positive, uplifting, interesting stuff like space exploration and the ocean clean-up project? How do I stop walking around thinking that the world is shit and it's better if an asteroid strikes the damn thing (that's a bit of an exaggeration, but a few years ago I would have probably agreed with that statement)? How do I start enjoying life and having a positive outlook? Is that even possible or are these people faking it? Why does it seem that being negative is way easier then staying positive? Why does our brains tend to recall bad memories and make us in a bad mood rather than recall good memories and make us in a good mood more often? Negative news is more often published than positive news because on average. humans tend to react more strongly to negative information, according to a new, global study.
