Why is it the older I get the more unhappier I become?

One is that we realize a lot we did not realize before.

In a place we had just moved to our dog killed a neighbor's chicken. The neighbor apologized to us for not having a better fence. She was a joy to be around. Never found fault with anyone. My kids adored her. In her eyes, nobody could do any wrong.
Always truly cheerful. We did things together for about five years, until wa moved away.

About the time we left she fell in with a group which seemed similar to my own group except that the folks in it seemed not to be very understanding of others. The group was very important in her life.

She visited us about 10 years after We had moved away, and she was kind enough to opine that I had advanced in that time, but I had to be still, because the change in her was not positive. Her thinking had changed in a sad way.

It happened that, about 20 years later, we moved back to her area. She gave us a royal welcome but things were so different. She criticized folks willy-nilly. She baby-sat her 6-year-old granddaughter who was overweight and she constantly belittled the child. The change in her seemed actually unbelievable. She had changed from a joyous person to a very unhappy one.

That's an example of changes we saw over the years.

What we learned is something we keep hearing -- that we become like the company we keep. And it's not just the people we keep company with. It is, even more so, our thoughts we have for company. But then, our thoughts are molded by our company -- by people, reading material, news, internet, even the pictures on our walls.

That's the thing life taught us about changing outlook as we age.

Maybe you're not used to getting older yet? I'm a lot happier since I accepted that aging happens like it or not.

I think it's really common. Most seem to get happier to a certain age then it all goes down hill. That age varies, so for me it was around 40.

Unfortunately, That's not uncommon😟

We become more aware about life, people and mortality.

The more shit you see, the more jaded you become

Ego

Realities of adulting are becoming real.
Stay childish. Live the real dream.

B.S. and fuckery is too evident in your reality and now you can clearly see this.

Less energy more responsibilities

I don’t know, because you’re still quite young. For some people they feel like there’s no time left to accomplish things or reinvent themselves. Statistically, a thirty-something still should have pkenty of time.

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It is because as a human Race having a physical experience here on this earth we call 'life', we are taught from a young age to seek happiness from outside of ourselves, not from within ourselves.

But happiness does not lie anywhere 'out there' between ourselves and the horizon. Happiness 'out there' is nowhere to be found because it doesn't technically exist as an identifiable entity in any form. But we still keep looking for that illusive thing we hope will suddenly turn around and find US instead of us finding it, but it doesn't happen! Happiness never shows up in the form we think it should show up as. Once again, happiness no-showed the party and left us feeling high and dry.

It's sort of like the message found within that old country song, "Looking for love in all the wrong places". No matter where the songwriter looked outside of himself, in every bar, in every place he thought love could be found, he could not ever find love.

The bottom line is, we as that human Race really do look for happiness in all the wrong places, mainly because all those wrong places we've typically looked have been external to us the whole time we had our nose to the ground like a dog trying to pick up the scent.

The only place that happiness exists anywhere in this physical experience we're all having on earth as humans, is within ourselves. It lies no where else.

If we are not feeling a sense of happiness even when times are looking pretty crappy, then we're listening to the wrong voice in our head.

But when we're conditioned as children to listen to that 'wrong voice' by parents who also listened to that same 'wrong voice' as they made their best attempt at teaching us, it stands to reason that our sense of happiness won't amount to any more than what our own parents and mentors had experienced when they too were all seeking that same place called 'happiness' and never actually found it either.

How then, could they teach us anything of true value if they didn't know themselves where happiness could be found? We then, became just as unhappy as those who tried to teach us about life, but essentially failed through no fault of their own.

Where we usually have all of our social relationships is outside of ourselves in our external world, not inside ourselves within our internal world.

But we rarely think to establish a relationship with that 'other' voice we only sometimes hear within our head, which if we followed it's lead, it would literally lead us to where that happy place can be found every time! And it does![/c]

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