non-conventional friends - part 1

I've had some non-conventional acquaintances over the years.... so now I want to ask what is "too far", to you, or acceptable. Imagine this as if it was your life partner. *disclaimer* no, you don't know this person, no, they are not on SW, and no I will not even say their real name.

so my friend (using that word because its easier to spell), internet friend of 18 years that I speak to about 2 minutes a month, said that they were h*rny, so they asked their wife for a pictures of her mother in law to j*rk off to.

*note, their wife is actually ok and used to these requests.*

thoughts?

honestly.

make a fake account if you need to share your opinion anonymously.

kinks exist. share your thoughts.

[b]*edit* yes you might have seen this yesterday. I am re-posting because I think its important to share different life views. the original post doesn't show up on my page, and I want it to. so here I am. Happy weird Thanksgiving.[/b]

[b]edit 2: no I don't know if the mother knows. and no I don't know if the wife is turned on by this.[/b]

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Miram · 31-35, F

The implications this has on family relations and values is what concerns me, consent aside. .

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@Miram agreed. personally I do not see this as healthy. but, it is also not my life. I try to be unbiased. because the reality is, people with these kinks, and sometimes more extreme, walk among us. so we need to have open dialogue.

Miram · 31-35, F

@HellsBelle

I am careful with open dialogues. They can be turned to normalizations.

Having a healthy family is essential part across cultures. It's one of the few things that unite us.

And I don't think those bonds should be sexualized.

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@Miram ha, "normalizations".... all that matters is consent. people with this kink....why cant it be normal, as long as there is consent? what is the harm? what is the fear that you have?

Miram · 31-35, F

@HellsBelle

[quote]The implications this has on family relations and values is what concerns me[/quote]

That was my original response. You asked what I thought of it and I told you.

[quote]all that matters is consent. [/quote]

To me it also matters how these actions affect family relations and structures. We exist in communities not separately and our actions that occur in a sexual context can in fact transcend to other contexts.

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@Miram as I said to another person: structure....a human being structured? don't you know how complex a brain is? how complex "growing up" can be, to different people? humans cannot have a box or structure. society and the majority want that. but it is not real.

if no one is being hurt, and there is consent, humans need to do what makes them happy

Miram · 31-35, F

@HellsBelle

Structure is complex. I am not sure why you're thinking otherwise.

[quote]if no one is being hurt, and there is consent, [/quote]

That is just it. You and I both don't know if anyone is being hurt.

But I know that there have been studies tackling in family sexual relations (incest) showing negative psychological consequences and long term issues between members.

I am simply not going to think it's all fine when a daughter sends pictures of her mother, sexualizing her to the husband.

Maybe it's okay for you. It's not for me.