non-conventional friends - part 1

I've had some non-conventional acquaintances over the years.... so now I want to ask what is "too far", to you, or acceptable. Imagine this as if it was your life partner. *disclaimer* no, you don't know this person, no, they are not on SW, and no I will not even say their real name.

so my friend (using that word because its easier to spell), internet friend of 18 years that I speak to about 2 minutes a month, said that they were h*rny, so they asked their wife for a pictures of her mother in law to j*rk off to.

*note, their wife is actually ok and used to these requests.*

thoughts?

honestly.

make a fake account if you need to share your opinion anonymously.

kinks exist. share your thoughts.

[b]*edit* yes you might have seen this yesterday. I am re-posting because I think its important to share different life views. the original post doesn't show up on my page, and I want it to. so here I am. Happy weird Thanksgiving.[/b]

[b]edit 2: no I don't know if the mother knows. and no I don't know if the wife is turned on by this.[/b]

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SW-User

Here's a thought if you want..JUST EWW"
And No I don't need to make another fake account to say this but honestly this kind of people makes me wish I WASNT A PEOPLE !

CountScrofula · 41-45, M

Although I'm not one to kink shame that is just profoundly fucked up and unhealthy primarily because the mother in law is not a willing participant in all of this.

Yeah people jerk off over pictures not intended for masturbation all the time but frankly that's still ethically dubious. When there's a couple involved and it's her goddamn mother, it's just straight up horrifying.

Also going "yes dear..." when someone asks for a picture of your mom to beat off to is disturbing as hell. Unless someone shared that kink, that kind of request would destroy most relationships. So if she's -not- into this and just kind of puts up with it, it just sounds profoundly unhealthy.

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HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@CountScrofula agreed

CountScrofula · 41-45, M

@HellsBelle Yeah, and really - I do have the same attitude to friends you do. I accept people for who they are and I don't judge.

Well, mostly. Gotta admit I'm judging the shit out of this one lmao

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@CountScrofula lmao yeah I told him that I'm more conventional.

Spokeskitties75 · 46-50, M

You know… I don’t judge…. If that’s what pitches his tent ⛺️ then so be it. You know, just because I like butter up my ass and a lollipop in my mouth, doesn’t mean everyone has to.

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@Spokeskitties75 as long as it doesnt hurt anyone and everyone consents, any kind of kink is ok to me. my only worry is that I dont know if the mother consents.

Spokeskitties75 · 46-50, M

@HellsBelle I’m even okay if it hurts… 😳

As long as it isn’t serious enough to send you to a hospital. As long as everyone has boundaries and it doesn’t get out of hand… everyone have fun and go out and get some strange ass! 👍🏻

SW-User

It's really bizarre and definitely makes me question the truth of it but then again what's the point of telling you something like that if it [i]isn't[/i] true..
Either way it's disturbing and would make me question why this person is in my life at all..

I feel sorry for the mother in law, she is being degraded by her daughter in a truly disgusting way.

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Miram · 31-35, F

@HellsBelle Yes, the human brain is a structure. And that's not what either of us was talking about anyway.

We were talking about FAMILY structure.

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@Miram not everyone has the same FAMILY structure

Miram · 31-35, F

@HellsBelle

Obviously.

Considering this a taboo is the same though because it can have effects on ALL of them.

LucyFuhr · 56-60, F

Although I get that people get off to some really weird things, I wouldn't be able call a person like that my "friend".

It's not so much the mother in law thing 'cause again, people are weird; it's the fact that they thought it was a good idea to tell me something like that.

And [b][i]especially[/i][/b] if we're not that close.

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@LucyFuhr Ive know him since I was 15 and he was 19. Im 33 now. again, its been an entirely internet, then text, relationship. we live 3000 miles apart. We used to talk alot in the beginning and now we talk maybe two minutes a month. we have talked about everything and he considers me a confidant. I like that he shared it with me, even if I think its.....not my style. I like when people share their entire selves with me.

LucyFuhr · 56-60, F

@HellsBelle I assumed a totally different relationship; it makes a little more sense now.

And kudos on the "entire selves" thing; I can only do that with a small number of people.

Miram · 31-35, F

The implications this has on family relations and values is what concerns me, consent aside. .

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Miram · 31-35, F

@HellsBelle

[quote]The implications this has on family relations and values is what concerns me[/quote]

That was my original response. You asked what I thought of it and I told you.

[quote]all that matters is consent. [/quote]

To me it also matters how these actions affect family relations and structures. We exist in communities not separately and our actions that occur in a sexual context can in fact transcend to other contexts.

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@Miram as I said to another person: structure....a human being structured? don't you know how complex a brain is? how complex "growing up" can be, to different people? humans cannot have a box or structure. society and the majority want that. but it is not real.

if no one is being hurt, and there is consent, humans need to do what makes them happy

Miram · 31-35, F

@HellsBelle

Structure is complex. I am not sure why you're thinking otherwise.

[quote]if no one is being hurt, and there is consent, [/quote]

That is just it. You and I both don't know if anyone is being hurt.

But I know that there have been studies tackling in family sexual relations (incest) showing negative psychological consequences and long term issues between members.

I am simply not going to think it's all fine when a daughter sends pictures of her mother, sexualizing her to the husband.

Maybe it's okay for you. It's not for me.

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