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CountScrofula · 41-45, M
Women in particular get a ton of pms from random dudes that usually result in sexual harassment so there's not a lot of immediate trust.
Best bet is to talk first in Q&A and then either ask to pm, or pm once you've struck a rapport.
Best bet is to talk first in Q&A and then either ask to pm, or pm once you've struck a rapport.
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longhairedcougar · 51-55, F
@Falconsolo go on sweety ❤️
Falconsolo · 26-30, M
@longhairedcougar may I PM you the question
longhairedcougar · 51-55, F
@Falconsolo ofcourse you can
AmbivalentFriability · 26-30
Talk to people on their posts firsts. It is so off putting when some stranger just shows up in your PMs. It would be courteous to directly ask if they want to chat in PMs.
BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP
@AmbivalentFriability I'm more of the I'd probably talk in Q&A but not necessarily ask before PMing kind.
FrozenWasteland · 61-69, M
I don't think there's a hard and fast answer. I go with my instincts and I don't think I've ever seriously offended anyone by sending a PM that wasn't pre-approved. In my mind, a PM is sometimes more appropriate than a public response. By the way, if I'm wrong and HAVE offended anyone, my apologies -- and I hope I've only ever offended you once.
I think there are a few rules though:
Don't be a dick.
Don't expect an answer.
If their "About Me" or their "Message Introduction" thing says "Don't even think about it", then don't even think about it.
If they don't respond to your first PM, don't send another one. Don't feel insulted and don't whine about it. Not even to yourself.
Don't, under any circumstances, be a dick. If you think you might be getting close to a line, you're probably over it.
I think there are a few rules though:
Don't be a dick.
Don't expect an answer.
If their "About Me" or their "Message Introduction" thing says "Don't even think about it", then don't even think about it.
If they don't respond to your first PM, don't send another one. Don't feel insulted and don't whine about it. Not even to yourself.
Don't, under any circumstances, be a dick. If you think you might be getting close to a line, you're probably over it.
SilkandLace2 · 46-50, M
@FrozenWasteland excellently put, that's how i feel about it
SW-User
Don't assume people are here for sexchat. Read their about me, and message introductions if they've filled them out.
Remember no one here is obligated to answer messages.
Remember no one here is obligated to answer messages.
Grateful4you · M
Some members have a "Before you PM me" That advises personal boundaries I know Meowsolini has.
romell · 51-55, M
Guess could try pm with respectable language n accept it If the person is not interested sending any material not of good taste is crass
My PM etiquette only extends to those I am familiar with on the Q n A. Otherwise, you're in the message requests since 2019
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
...and if you are going to ask first, don't do it on every single post you see her on.
She'll tell you off for that too 😅
She'll tell you off for that too 😅
Aysel · F
Ask permission.
smiler2012 · 56-60
{@falconsolo] well if you do not want them to message you. do not bother with it and if they cannot get the hint you do not wish to talk to them then block or mute them 🤷♂️
Falconsolo · 26-30, M
Women say ask men say go for it.
Falconsolo · 26-30, M
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit not looking for men thanks. Lol
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@Falconsolo men can sometimes struggle in conversation but I doubt it’s a gender issue really
PhaqueYou · M
@Falconsolo answering yourself too?
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Jack17 · 18-21, M
I wouldn't pm first but if I get a pm i wont mind
PhaqueYou · M
Go on PM everyone!
I DARE YA!
I DARE YA!
bijouxbroussard · F
I’d say you can’t go wrong asking permission, especially while speaking with posters in the Q&A. Because of some of the ridiculous pms a lot of us receive from out of nowhere, some women won’t reply otherwise. And a few will automatically block.
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@AmbivalentFriability I prefer that too I’m usually put off when a person I’ve never interacted with privately messages me
Falconsolo · 26-30, M
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit that’s what I expected
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
Sounds like you know what to so that’s great @Falconsolo
DDonde · 31-35, M
Go for it
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
Just PM. I have 124 unread messages currently. I only answer specific messages but you won’t know unless you try.