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OogieBoogie · F
This is one of those things that has too many criterias to be able to judge accurately.
Some people are just big, they have the stocky body type.
Some have conditions,,some its just ignorance or even poverty that encourages them to eat badly.
But I think there is a point that if you can't get out of bed, or wash and dress yourself...then its a problem that needs fixing.
Thing is ....everyone can see if someone is addicted to food.
But they can't see addiction to shopping, or gambling or being a violent spouse.
Its easy to shame these people.
And ignore our own weaknesses .😣
Some people are just big, they have the stocky body type.
Some have conditions,,some its just ignorance or even poverty that encourages them to eat badly.
But I think there is a point that if you can't get out of bed, or wash and dress yourself...then its a problem that needs fixing.
Thing is ....everyone can see if someone is addicted to food.
But they can't see addiction to shopping, or gambling or being a violent spouse.
Its easy to shame these people.
And ignore our own weaknesses .😣
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@OogieBoogie Violent spouse isn't a addiction. It's a sign of being a spoiled child that never grew up.
OogieBoogie · F
@SteelHands you know....I'd have to agree on that .
But if they cant stop...it must be like a mental addiction.
How can one do something so wrong , know its wrong , but keep doing it ?
But if they cant stop...it must be like a mental addiction.
How can one do something so wrong , know its wrong , but keep doing it ?
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@OogieBoogie a person has to be broken of it when they're little. When they don't it follows them all their life.
OogieBoogie · F
@SteelHands really!?!
That's terribly sad to learn .
It's like a life sentence not only for the ones that love them, but for themselves as well.🥺
That's terribly sad to learn .
It's like a life sentence not only for the ones that love them, but for themselves as well.🥺
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@OogieBoogie If you ever see a mom appease a temper tantrum...
You will be seeing a future abuser in the making.
Anyone from a large family knows this. The lastborn in the pecking order is most commonly the one that is never broken of their "little inner tyrant"
I have a 59yo brother that still has a problem.
You will be seeing a future abuser in the making.
Anyone from a large family knows this. The lastborn in the pecking order is most commonly the one that is never broken of their "little inner tyrant"
I have a 59yo brother that still has a problem.
OogieBoogie · F
@SteelHands wow!
I can speak from my experience, that I know someone just like this. They were bought stuff to make them happy, never told off doing wrong .
Never made to confront tjeir feelings or wrong doing .
And now I see that they never emotionally grew up .
When things get hard they run away, they lie and cheat to get out of responsibility or accountability.
Its not fair that there are people that get to be parents , but shouldn't be allowed to be .
I can speak from my experience, that I know someone just like this. They were bought stuff to make them happy, never told off doing wrong .
Never made to confront tjeir feelings or wrong doing .
And now I see that they never emotionally grew up .
When things get hard they run away, they lie and cheat to get out of responsibility or accountability.
Its not fair that there are people that get to be parents , but shouldn't be allowed to be .