You saw someone who felt like they needed to hide the person they were in love with from their relatives because they were different?

Get over that shit I say, Damn it is 2021 not 1821 or 1921. Besides if you like her then you should not hide her, that is not honoring her one damn bit is it?

I've come across people like that.

Never a good idea to be with someone who will hide you. No matter how good a reason they have.

They will always be his little secret, it’s not going to change.

Just tell them on your phone a little while before meeting

I’d be upfront and honest about it. If that’s the kind of people my relatives choose to be, I’d rather cut them out now. I’ve done it before and I’d do it again.

well, obviously the parents are racists and their point of view will mess up his life

I was also in a similar situation but went against my parents and never regretted it. He has no balls sorry