The Worst Reason For Not Cleaning Up A Hoard....

“When you get rid of a beautiful thing a part of your soul diminishes”....
The house was pile full of “beautiful things” that were being trampled and uncared for. The same kind of thinking when a possessive person doesn’t care for their spouse and neglects or abuses them but refuses to let them go.

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4meAndyou · F

I,(used to?),have a good friend who is a hoarder. Aside from the physical health issues associated with living in a home that can NOT ever be dusted or thoroughly vacuumed or properly cleaned, there are mental health issues associated with hoarding.

All hoarders have one thing in common, and that is an unresolved and unresolvable, sense of deep loss. In the hoarder's mind, the things he or she saves or hoards become immensely valuable, even if the rest of the world perceives them as junk, and are somehow linked to the loss that traumatized them.

I watched one episode of the show, Hoarders, where the woman was hoarding pots and pans. When the pots and pans were pared down and most of them were actually removed right in front of her, the woman broke down into deep gut wrenching sobs.

I have not heard about the link to possessive people who neglect their spouses, but since I have experienced that, in my last marriage, I tend to think that is more a function of narcissism, control, and punishment of someone whom the narcissist perceives as rebelling against their control.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@4meAndyou I believe there might be some who contracted the same virus that is linked to cat hoarding....some of the hoarders on the shows have accumulated a number of pets. One neighbor family of mine when I was a teen was animal hoarder and it lead to hoarding other things. They had more animals than any family could take care of much less keep the house clean etc....it overflowed into the yard. When all of the dishes were dirty they’d use paper plates, tell the youngest boy to burn the trash and some of it would blow in the wind to our acreage....and I think most of us have experienced losses in our lives, what makes some think they can fill the void with stuff while others do other things to deal with the loss is what I find interesting.

4meAndyou · F

@cherokeepatti It's so sad when a human begins to hoard cats as though they were possessions instead of living creatures. I am sure that there is a virus associated with pet hoarding...perhaps several.

My friend who is unable to part with his hoarded items is more likely to be suffering from toxic mold. All of his things smell moldy.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@4meAndyou mold can cause brain fog and that itself can cause them not to think clearly in how to organize their stuff, it’s a downward spiral from then on. I think the cat hoarders had good intentions in rescuing abandoned cats. They say the virus makes them more likely to start hoarding, and the virus is more present in feral or abandoned cats that may eat garbage like raw meat or catch mice that has it or hang out with other infected cats.

SW-User

So beautifully said!
I am inspired to ...have a clean up. 😂

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@SW-User you’re welcome...one item at a time....I wonder if anyone has ever made a blog about parting with their things and making sure they went to people who needed them.

SW-User

@cherokeepatti I've never seen that but the problem with something like that is attracting scammers.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@SW-User oh yes it is. but you don’t have to give random people who subscribe to your blog your stuff. You can give things to people you know in real life. I usually save up good useable items I acquire until someone has a need and donate to them....have donated to tornado victims, to someone who lost everything in a fire & was starting over, to those who moved here from hurricane areas....there is a also a man who started a fire “closet”, more like a small warehouse full of good useable furniture and household furnishings.

SweetMae · 70-79, F

Very good analogy Patti!

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@SweetMae I believe that hoarding is a lot more common than it was a few decades ago, a reflection of society and family values perhaps plus more ways to accumulate things....garage sales were non-existent when I was young. People didn’t buy as much and if they wanted to part with things they usually passed them onto people who could use them or they might have an estate sale when they decided to move to a smaller place.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@SweetMae Charley cleaned up his home and has hundreds of pictures he’s painted. Now he has room to paint again and is teaching painting classes. I imagine that is much more beneficial to his soul than accumulating things that he can’t properly care for.

SweetMae · 70-79, F

@cherokeepatti I agree. Cleaning out things we no longer need leads to a more peaceful place to live.

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