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How would you have dealt with this ‘tween situation?

As we’re leaving a friend’s place tonight (after sitting around the fire pit) my tween gets on his scooter as though he’s going to ride home alone. I tell him to put the scooter in the Jeep and get in (it’s dark at this point and I’m not going to let him scoot home alone)
Now he’s pissed (teenaged hormones!) and he’s questioning me. After some discussion, and as he’s seated in the seat next to me, he says cockily, “ You better not try to stop me from riding my dirt bike like this, or else I’ll make your whole weekend miserable!”

Of course I responded with some version of “Ha! Who do you think you are? As if you have that kind of power!”

He said “Oh yeah,? Like you can stop me....I know how to syphon gas”

(Earlier in the night, we had discussed the fact that he needs to earn his tanks full of gas when we are out dirt biking, and that gas isn’t free)

Anyway...at that point I reached out and smacked his mouth. As far as I am concerned, he deserved that smack. He was being totally cocky and the smartassery was running rampant!

How would you have dealt with it?
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XcookiexbakerX · 31-35, F
It's a learning lesson all the way through, in my experience with my three young boys, oldest ten, it's better to let them run their mouths instead of react right away, at least for me personally. I always got to bring myself together before responding, it helps to take a minute. Set those boundaries though 👍️
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
So, let me clarify....he has only come to live with me three years ago (he is technically my stepson) and believe me, I have held my composure all these years. This is the first time I’ve ever not been ‘in control’ so to speak. And believe me, he has deserved much more than this....my own kids have looked at me in wonderment and asked my why I’m letting him get away with the shit he’s gotten away with....so I suppose it’s been a long time coming. As a mom, I’m not proud of my actions, but as a caregiver, and one who is raising him, I’d say it was necessary 😊 @XcookiexbakerX]
XcookiexbakerX · 31-35, F
@ImpeccablyImperfect as a mother I understand when push comes to shove, sometimes you gotta lay it down, no judgement from me, it's not easy at all and I understand.
morrgin · F
@ImpeccablyImperfect that's a whole new ball game with him being a stepson. It shouldn't be but it is. Here's a better resource...steptalk.org
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@morrgin Thank you! I will check that one out 😊