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Madhatter · 31-35, M
I would've said "I guess I'll have to sell the dirt bike, then. We could use the extra cash anyway." Spoiled brat. I wouldn't have hit him, because that just teaches him that violence is the way to get what you want, but I would have either locked up or, if necessary, actually sold the bike. Make him earn it back. Needs to learn actions have consequences and he doesn't own any of that. It's a privilege that can be taken away as easily as it's given. You're in control, not him.
XcookiexbakerX · 31-35, F
It's a learning lesson all the way through, in my experience with my three young boys, oldest ten, it's better to let them run their mouths instead of react right away, at least for me personally. I always got to bring myself together before responding, it helps to take a minute. Set those boundaries though 👍️
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XcookiexbakerX · 31-35, F
@ImpeccablyImperfect as a mother I understand when push comes to shove, sometimes you gotta lay it down, no judgement from me, it's not easy at all and I understand.
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@morrgin Thank you! I will check that one out 😊
Mamapolo2016 · F
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@Mamapolo2016 I have. His father is away at work (as usual) but he has my back. He told me he’s glad I smacked his mouth for being mouthy as he was. It’s been a rough road but I have to stay on top here. Especially since his father is away most of the time. I can’t let him think he’s in control here.
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
I also don’t see a smack on the mouth as ‘physical violence’....it’s not like I’m beating the kid (although some might say he has deserved such a beating!) It’s simply more of a natural consequence.
If I was in the bar, and I kept mouthing off to another girl, being a snotty, mouthy bitch, I could justifiably expect that I’d get a punch in the mouth. Wouldn’t you agree? I see it as the same thing. He has pushed the limits of my patience for three years now, and tonight I smacked him on the mouth for it. I didn’t take him out back and kick the shit out of him haha
If I was in the bar, and I kept mouthing off to another girl, being a snotty, mouthy bitch, I could justifiably expect that I’d get a punch in the mouth. Wouldn’t you agree? I see it as the same thing. He has pushed the limits of my patience for three years now, and tonight I smacked him on the mouth for it. I didn’t take him out back and kick the shit out of him haha
Mamapolo2016 · F
@ImpeccablyImperfect I don't know your situation. but while I can completely understand the impulse, you should consider your position in today's climate. A backhand in the heat of argument can be construed as 'abusive stepmother.' If his mother is still in the picture at all, that will often be where the trouble comes from.
Just be careful.
Just be careful.
morrgin · F
Less talking. Tell him once and dont explain yourself after that. Let him give his argument so he is heard but still stand your ground on your decision. Arguing with a kid of any age is pointless. They don't use reason or logic. The argument becomes a battle of wills while the original problem is forgotten. Next time just take the bike away.
Livingwell · 61-69, M
You did good Mom. If I had done that as a kid I’d be wearing dentures now. My mom gave me a couple of good slaps for being mouthy. When my daughters did that they discovered the taste of soap. If he was my son he would have been on the ground. Respect is well learned sooner than later.
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
Haha thanks. I agree, the level of respect has dropped significantly. There’s no way in hell I would have said anything like that to my mom! I am determined to teach my kids the same respect. 😊 @Livingwell
ButterRobot · 51-55, M
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@DarlingSelah So, I guess the ‘rest of the story’ might be the fact that he is my stepchild...?...and that he has only been living with me for three years. He has pushed the limits many many times, and I believe it’s [i]because[/i] he knew I always held back (likely because he isn’t ‘mine’...?) I do feel this ‘smack’ (not a full-on slap across the face, but a smack, like a ‘flick’ on the mouth) was a natural consequence for speaking to me the way he did. 😊
SW-User
My issue with him slapping across the mouth is... what could he have learned from that? Is it ok to slap a man or woman across the mouth when you disagree?
Sure... after he slaps someone else, you can explain to him that it’s something only done between family members.... but even that doesn’t make sense.
Did you “control” this isolated event? Sure? Did you make the next round of the fight any easier? No.
Sure... after he slaps someone else, you can explain to him that it’s something only done between family members.... but even that doesn’t make sense.
Did you “control” this isolated event? Sure? Did you make the next round of the fight any easier? No.
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@SW-User This wasn’t a simple case of ‘disagreeing’ though. (Nor was it an isolated event, as it happens all the time). This was pure and blatant disrespect and pushing of boundaries. I believe the smack (not a full-on slap across the face, but a smack/flick on the mouth) was a natural and justified ramification for mouthing off as he did. The issue with mouthing off and misbehaving has been going on for years already and I have done my best to take control using other measures all along. Clearly to no avail. Am I proud of the fact that I had to resort to this? No. But I have always believed that [i]sometimes[/i], these measures are necessary when it comes to raising kids.
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@morrgin Thanks! I have been subscribed to that site for years now 😊👍
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
Sorry. But it never would have gotten to that. He smart mouthed you and gave you attitude because he could. And he thought he could because there would not be consequences.. And that would be because there werent last time..
Now I dont approve of hitting kids, particularly not half grown ones. But he has to understand consequences and you cant afford to lose those fights. Or it will be someone other than you he does it to and he will end up injured or worse.
Now I dont approve of hitting kids, particularly not half grown ones. But he has to understand consequences and you cant afford to lose those fights. Or it will be someone other than you he does it to and he will end up injured or worse.
afterlight · 51-55, M
I would tell him you talk to me that way again I will make you miserable. Grounding will increase by a week if you say more words. I keep adding weeks if you roll eyes or try to say things back. I take more freedoms away. I would lock the bike away also he lost the peivledge.
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ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
How much time do you have???? @Ladyred
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ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit yeah that’s still on the table as an option. I told him today that he is on thin ice with the attitude and at risk of losing the bike altogether