One-night stand
Have you ever had a one-night stand? What was the experience like and would you you recommend it to someone that has never had one?
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Had a relationship that could have been just a one night stand (not night, day haha) but when you have sex that's so great with someone it's quite likely it becomes a relationship if you have other things in common. I'm glad it turned out well because I wasn't used to that kind of stuff and sex is special for me.
And online I had a similar experience.. 🥰 Mind blowing still became a relationship cause it's special.
I wouldn't recommend it or would recommend it. Because it would depend on people's needs and personality.
And online I had a similar experience.. 🥰 Mind blowing still became a relationship cause it's special.
I wouldn't recommend it or would recommend it. Because it would depend on people's needs and personality.
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Yes. It was the first time I had sex and although it was thrilling at the time, to be honest I wouldn't want to do it again... at least not without getting to know the person first. I found it weird there being no sort of relationship to speak of after the fact. I mean, we weren't even friends - basically total strangers, and have never seen each other since.
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Cantsayno · 56-60, M
I’ve had a few. The best was Thanksgiving night. I just met my sisters friend At thanksgiving dinner and we had sex that night in the living room floor while my whole family was sleeping.
sort of. it was weird. I'd probably do it again, but it's unlikely to happen
SageWanderer · 70-79, M
They are good for the physical release but do nothing emotionally.
Sharky86 · 36-40, M
LOL I do this very often, I mean very often. XD
chrisCA · M
I have had several in my day.
All enjoyable.
All enjoyable.
PitbullBiker · 51-55, M
I have but it was not by my choice.
approachingmyexpirationdate · 61-69, M
Had it
Didn't like it
Didn't like it
swirlie · 31-35, F
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The short answer is, yes I have!
Keep in mind that a one night stand does not necessarily involve someone who you've just met for the first time and instantly became intimately attracted to. In most cases I think you'll find, a one night stand takes place with someone whom you are familiar with, perhaps someone whom you speak to regularly ..or work with in some capacity, someone perhaps whom you are already somewhat familiar with in regard to their apparent lifestyle as evidenced by the company they keep.
A one night stand involving someone whom you've never met before but whom you just encountered very unexpectedly, is a very rare occurrence ..or so it may seem to be at first, but this exact scenario does happen with women more frequently than one might ever imagine.
This type of one night stand in particular is actually the resultant act of 'manifestation' at work by either the male or the female and not the result of a purely coincidental, roll of the dice, meeting of the forces by pure chance and speculation, which we may rationalize to ourselves to have probably been the case as we try to come up with a meaningful answer to our uncanny stroke of high adventure!
"Manifestation" means, to cause the Law of Attraction to work in your favor in attracting the desired scenario to occur as you craft the details of it's unfolding to present itself, in which case it is that particular male or 'unknown stranger' whom you are literally attracting to yourself through your own use of the Law of Attraction.
Or, "manifestation" could be the work of the male in question who also uses the Law of Attraction to work in his favor, whereby he is the one who actually attracts YOU into his space, in which case you pick up that message in your mind and are merely responding to the details as they present themselves to you within your mind ..and then you have the option of responding with full cooperation on your part, or not.
Full cooperating meaning, that you simply show up and let nature take it's course, but are unaware on a conscious level that you are actually supporting his manifested thoughts, just as it is possible that he could support your own manifested thoughts if things were reversed.
The way the Law of Attraction works is simple: Someone is either a supporting actor in your movie, or you are a supporting actor in THEIR movie. Either way, we then respond in lockstep with someone's manifested intent, be it your own intent to meet someone like him or his intent to meet someone like you, but to achieve this through the means of a one night stand is not necessarily a conscious decision one makes at the time of actually crafting the details of wanting to meet someone, or agreeing to meet up with someone when that thought eventually crosses our mind.
What will then cross your mind if this 'chance' meeting suddenly does take you by surprise, is the strange feeling of overwhelming potential that this seemingly 'chance' meeting could actually turn into a one night stand very quickly if you let it. And for some reason, you feel compelled to let it work.
At the same time, this overwhelming feeling can be described as the whole event being beyond your own control, feeling like your movement in his direction is totally involuntary, feeling like your movement in the direction that you intuitively know this whole thing is trying to go, is going there with involuntary compliance on your part as you suddenly find yourself now 'voluntarily' going along with the whole thing without hesitation.
And this will happen without hesitation on your part despite the seeming objective of a one night stand being totally against your better judgement on one hand, but which is totally ok with you on the other hand if in fact a one night stand does indeed come to fruition! In other words, you will fight with yourself ..but you will still feel compelled to at least test the waters!
The feeling you will feel when confronted with a one night stand is like you are being swept up and carried along with what seems like an excellent idea under the circumstances of the precise moment it is presented to you. If it happened an hour later in theory, all bets could be off. That is why the precise timing of this event, where all the stars have seemingly aligned in that moment, is what brings someone's manifestation of intent into synchronized alignment with someone else who can support their intent. At this point as a supporting actor, we just go with the flow and see where it leads us, but only if we intuitively feel safe in the company of that person in doing so.
The potential for an adult woman to actually carry out her otherwise opposing rational thought process in suddenly deciding that a one night stand really IS something she would truly welcome in that moment of time, is an exceptionally high, almost indescribable probability for a one night stand to actually occur.
The potential for you going through with this is particularly high if you think even for an instant that it might be fun! Thinking it might be fun and adventurous therefore, sets the stage for you to manifest your own intent of which HE then becomes your supporting actor. One's intent takes that little thought and that little effort to be made manifest into fruition, so one must be very careful with what we wish for at all times.
What was the experience like?
Because a one night stand by definition implies that you won't likely ever encounter this person again, or that this one-shot experience will be the only time you will ever participate on this level with this person again, by contrast, it is very likely that you may find yourself plutonically interacting with that same person in the near future as they remain within or at least on the periphery of your current social circle of friends and acquaintances.
The one night stand experience itself feels very mechanical at first, almost approaching awkwardness, but which is caused by the distinct lack of emotion associated with your intent as a female, particularly your lack of emotional investment in that person in question. But sexually speaking, the 'unknown' within that experience can and will yield something that you were not anticipating on a physical level but which will always leave you secretly smiling to yourself every time without exception!
What I am speaking of that subsequently made you smile, could be a good thing and it could also be a disappointing thing, but in that sudden awareness of you now 'knowing for sure' about this or that about him, the answer will make you either smile approvingly to yourself ..or it will make you literally laugh out loud at yourself!
But either way, its all good regardless of the form it takes because you made no emotional investment in that person anyway, thus realistically expected no rate of return either! No winners, no losers.
A smile of approval to yourself however, will usually lead to another one night stand with that same person, but again, with no emotional commitment on your part toward him. Does two consecutive one night stands mean you are informally dating him? No, it means you have mutually consented to two consecutive one night stands! There is a difference.
From an emotional perspective, you then realize that the feeling (or lack of feeling) toward each other is mutual, yet the mechanics of the interlude will become the driving force that leads you to that self-absorbed moment of satiation for yourself, not his, only your's. That is why one night stands are only ever about 'you'; they are not about satiating the other person's needs, they are only about satiating those needs of your own. This occurs once again, because of the lack of emotional investment in the other person you are sharing this mechanical, albeit loving intimacy with.
Keep in mind, you are only thinking of 'you' in this instance, not 'us', not 'we', not 'him', it is only about you, what YOU need, what YOU desire in that one night stand. And he is doing and thinking the same thing for himself!
And it all goes down this way because this mechanical interlude of passion is often totally devoid of emotion from either side, yet is often overflowing with laser-focused primal passion, not to be predominantly shared mutually as a couple, but only experienced from your own unique perspective of being the recipient of what you thought he might bring to the table.
Yet, is that a bad thing? Not really, unless you change your mind and decide it is. Its really that simple even within the complexity of this reality.
What this primal, one night stand experience really is then, is an 'equally balanced' thing. Both you and he are approaching this experience on exactly the same intellectual level ...with exactly the same intent ...with exactly the same physiological expectation ...with exactly the same lack of expectation from each other, all of which comes to fruition as the prized 'afterglow' signals to you, 'Its over girl, feel better now?!'.
If all went as anticipated (not expected), the answer will most likely be a very silent albeit resounding, "Yes, as a matter of fact, I do feel better now... and thank you very much for asking!".
This of course is being spoken silently BY you, TO yourself as you feel your eyes beginning to roll back forward within their sockets and simultaneously, your ten toes close back together making your feet look normal again. And if your body happens to react this way, your body is telling you that you made the correct decision after all!
Would I recommend a one night stand to someone who has never experienced a one night stand before?
My recommendation would depend upon one's desired outcome! I don't make investment recommendations to people even if I know them intimately, because what works for me.. or what I have an intrinsic financial interest in, doesn't necessarily resonate with someone else.
Therefore, in taking a more benign approach to your question I can honestly say, that if the 'mood' suddenly strikes you without inhibition (which is unfounded guilt) and the opportunity is there to proceed without compromising life as you require life to be after the fact... or that you only ever have limited time within your busy schedule because of your present circumstances, yet you would like to have a bit of fun-on-the-run just for the hell of it, then perhaps a one night stand will satisfy some or ALL of those longtime-contemplated curiosities about some person in particular you may have always wondered about.
As well, a one night stand is an excellent choice of options if you merely have a desire to satiate some aspect of Race, Creed or something about those bound by Religious cultural tradition that has always left you curious. No more would you question "I wonder what that would be like?!".
Or, "I wonder if what they say (or what mother always said) is actually true?". A one night stand is a very sure way of finding out for sure!
In your decision to proceed with a one night stand, you will have finally given yourself permission. You will have given yourself permission to experience first-hand, some physical 'aspect' of a guy you somehow learned about either from him directly or from someone else who knows all about him, which may just happen to be the opposite physical characteristic to what your mother had brainwashed you as being 'normal' or 'more desirable' in a man from her perspective, which of course was passed down to her from your grandmother's perspective whom of course learned all about men from her mother too.
This mind game we now play with ourselves will challenge every old wives tale you ever learned about men, all of which originated from people who actually had very little experience with more than one man in their lives if the truth be known. In the absence of men, speculation fills his shoes.
With all of this being said, you will find that a one night stand can easily fulfill or at least satiate your curiosity or more importantly in my view, satiate your immediate physiological innate primal desire without actually making an investment in a relationship that you don't necessarily want nor have need to accommodate as a permanent fixture in your life.
Is all this more than you really wanted to know? lol! [/c]
The short answer is, yes I have!
Keep in mind that a one night stand does not necessarily involve someone who you've just met for the first time and instantly became intimately attracted to. In most cases I think you'll find, a one night stand takes place with someone whom you are familiar with, perhaps someone whom you speak to regularly ..or work with in some capacity, someone perhaps whom you are already somewhat familiar with in regard to their apparent lifestyle as evidenced by the company they keep.
A one night stand involving someone whom you've never met before but whom you just encountered very unexpectedly, is a very rare occurrence ..or so it may seem to be at first, but this exact scenario does happen with women more frequently than one might ever imagine.
This type of one night stand in particular is actually the resultant act of 'manifestation' at work by either the male or the female and not the result of a purely coincidental, roll of the dice, meeting of the forces by pure chance and speculation, which we may rationalize to ourselves to have probably been the case as we try to come up with a meaningful answer to our uncanny stroke of high adventure!
"Manifestation" means, to cause the Law of Attraction to work in your favor in attracting the desired scenario to occur as you craft the details of it's unfolding to present itself, in which case it is that particular male or 'unknown stranger' whom you are literally attracting to yourself through your own use of the Law of Attraction.
Or, "manifestation" could be the work of the male in question who also uses the Law of Attraction to work in his favor, whereby he is the one who actually attracts YOU into his space, in which case you pick up that message in your mind and are merely responding to the details as they present themselves to you within your mind ..and then you have the option of responding with full cooperation on your part, or not.
Full cooperating meaning, that you simply show up and let nature take it's course, but are unaware on a conscious level that you are actually supporting his manifested thoughts, just as it is possible that he could support your own manifested thoughts if things were reversed.
The way the Law of Attraction works is simple: Someone is either a supporting actor in your movie, or you are a supporting actor in THEIR movie. Either way, we then respond in lockstep with someone's manifested intent, be it your own intent to meet someone like him or his intent to meet someone like you, but to achieve this through the means of a one night stand is not necessarily a conscious decision one makes at the time of actually crafting the details of wanting to meet someone, or agreeing to meet up with someone when that thought eventually crosses our mind.
What will then cross your mind if this 'chance' meeting suddenly does take you by surprise, is the strange feeling of overwhelming potential that this seemingly 'chance' meeting could actually turn into a one night stand very quickly if you let it. And for some reason, you feel compelled to let it work.
At the same time, this overwhelming feeling can be described as the whole event being beyond your own control, feeling like your movement in his direction is totally involuntary, feeling like your movement in the direction that you intuitively know this whole thing is trying to go, is going there with involuntary compliance on your part as you suddenly find yourself now 'voluntarily' going along with the whole thing without hesitation.
And this will happen without hesitation on your part despite the seeming objective of a one night stand being totally against your better judgement on one hand, but which is totally ok with you on the other hand if in fact a one night stand does indeed come to fruition! In other words, you will fight with yourself ..but you will still feel compelled to at least test the waters!
The feeling you will feel when confronted with a one night stand is like you are being swept up and carried along with what seems like an excellent idea under the circumstances of the precise moment it is presented to you. If it happened an hour later in theory, all bets could be off. That is why the precise timing of this event, where all the stars have seemingly aligned in that moment, is what brings someone's manifestation of intent into synchronized alignment with someone else who can support their intent. At this point as a supporting actor, we just go with the flow and see where it leads us, but only if we intuitively feel safe in the company of that person in doing so.
The potential for an adult woman to actually carry out her otherwise opposing rational thought process in suddenly deciding that a one night stand really IS something she would truly welcome in that moment of time, is an exceptionally high, almost indescribable probability for a one night stand to actually occur.
The potential for you going through with this is particularly high if you think even for an instant that it might be fun! Thinking it might be fun and adventurous therefore, sets the stage for you to manifest your own intent of which HE then becomes your supporting actor. One's intent takes that little thought and that little effort to be made manifest into fruition, so one must be very careful with what we wish for at all times.
What was the experience like?
Because a one night stand by definition implies that you won't likely ever encounter this person again, or that this one-shot experience will be the only time you will ever participate on this level with this person again, by contrast, it is very likely that you may find yourself plutonically interacting with that same person in the near future as they remain within or at least on the periphery of your current social circle of friends and acquaintances.
The one night stand experience itself feels very mechanical at first, almost approaching awkwardness, but which is caused by the distinct lack of emotion associated with your intent as a female, particularly your lack of emotional investment in that person in question. But sexually speaking, the 'unknown' within that experience can and will yield something that you were not anticipating on a physical level but which will always leave you secretly smiling to yourself every time without exception!
What I am speaking of that subsequently made you smile, could be a good thing and it could also be a disappointing thing, but in that sudden awareness of you now 'knowing for sure' about this or that about him, the answer will make you either smile approvingly to yourself ..or it will make you literally laugh out loud at yourself!
But either way, its all good regardless of the form it takes because you made no emotional investment in that person anyway, thus realistically expected no rate of return either! No winners, no losers.
A smile of approval to yourself however, will usually lead to another one night stand with that same person, but again, with no emotional commitment on your part toward him. Does two consecutive one night stands mean you are informally dating him? No, it means you have mutually consented to two consecutive one night stands! There is a difference.
From an emotional perspective, you then realize that the feeling (or lack of feeling) toward each other is mutual, yet the mechanics of the interlude will become the driving force that leads you to that self-absorbed moment of satiation for yourself, not his, only your's. That is why one night stands are only ever about 'you'; they are not about satiating the other person's needs, they are only about satiating those needs of your own. This occurs once again, because of the lack of emotional investment in the other person you are sharing this mechanical, albeit loving intimacy with.
Keep in mind, you are only thinking of 'you' in this instance, not 'us', not 'we', not 'him', it is only about you, what YOU need, what YOU desire in that one night stand. And he is doing and thinking the same thing for himself!
And it all goes down this way because this mechanical interlude of passion is often totally devoid of emotion from either side, yet is often overflowing with laser-focused primal passion, not to be predominantly shared mutually as a couple, but only experienced from your own unique perspective of being the recipient of what you thought he might bring to the table.
Yet, is that a bad thing? Not really, unless you change your mind and decide it is. Its really that simple even within the complexity of this reality.
What this primal, one night stand experience really is then, is an 'equally balanced' thing. Both you and he are approaching this experience on exactly the same intellectual level ...with exactly the same intent ...with exactly the same physiological expectation ...with exactly the same lack of expectation from each other, all of which comes to fruition as the prized 'afterglow' signals to you, 'Its over girl, feel better now?!'.
If all went as anticipated (not expected), the answer will most likely be a very silent albeit resounding, "Yes, as a matter of fact, I do feel better now... and thank you very much for asking!".
This of course is being spoken silently BY you, TO yourself as you feel your eyes beginning to roll back forward within their sockets and simultaneously, your ten toes close back together making your feet look normal again. And if your body happens to react this way, your body is telling you that you made the correct decision after all!
Would I recommend a one night stand to someone who has never experienced a one night stand before?
My recommendation would depend upon one's desired outcome! I don't make investment recommendations to people even if I know them intimately, because what works for me.. or what I have an intrinsic financial interest in, doesn't necessarily resonate with someone else.
Therefore, in taking a more benign approach to your question I can honestly say, that if the 'mood' suddenly strikes you without inhibition (which is unfounded guilt) and the opportunity is there to proceed without compromising life as you require life to be after the fact... or that you only ever have limited time within your busy schedule because of your present circumstances, yet you would like to have a bit of fun-on-the-run just for the hell of it, then perhaps a one night stand will satisfy some or ALL of those longtime-contemplated curiosities about some person in particular you may have always wondered about.
As well, a one night stand is an excellent choice of options if you merely have a desire to satiate some aspect of Race, Creed or something about those bound by Religious cultural tradition that has always left you curious. No more would you question "I wonder what that would be like?!".
Or, "I wonder if what they say (or what mother always said) is actually true?". A one night stand is a very sure way of finding out for sure!
In your decision to proceed with a one night stand, you will have finally given yourself permission. You will have given yourself permission to experience first-hand, some physical 'aspect' of a guy you somehow learned about either from him directly or from someone else who knows all about him, which may just happen to be the opposite physical characteristic to what your mother had brainwashed you as being 'normal' or 'more desirable' in a man from her perspective, which of course was passed down to her from your grandmother's perspective whom of course learned all about men from her mother too.
This mind game we now play with ourselves will challenge every old wives tale you ever learned about men, all of which originated from people who actually had very little experience with more than one man in their lives if the truth be known. In the absence of men, speculation fills his shoes.
With all of this being said, you will find that a one night stand can easily fulfill or at least satiate your curiosity or more importantly in my view, satiate your immediate physiological innate primal desire without actually making an investment in a relationship that you don't necessarily want nor have need to accommodate as a permanent fixture in your life.
Is all this more than you really wanted to know? lol! [/c]
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@swirlie it's safe to say that ☝️🤪