Does you heart ache because your spouse is oblivious that you're even there? Or are you more like, "Who cares, whatever".

Actually ?? ... both ... there are times my heart does ache, cause it’s like ‘hey dumbass, we’re at the point in our life we could make this something special, get a grip lady’ ... and then there’s the ‘okay fine, I’ll do me and you can just figure things out all on your own’ ...