While I support and love the trans community, recently i've been at odds with them.

Me, being a woman and a frequent LGBT ally, all of a sudden, i'm not a woman because of my vagina or my chromosomes but because I "Feel like" A woman which is the argument I have found in so many trans women. So what exactly does feeling like a woman mean? If it's not having the female reproductive system then what? Having large silicone boobs? Sorry love. Many born women do not have large boobs. Is it wearing tight, pornified, overly girly clothing? Sorry. Not all women wear those things and you are perpetuating an annoying as hell stereotype.. So i'll ask again. What does it mean to feel like a woman? Am I all of a sudden a man if I put on men's overalls and a male tanktop? Mere clothing shouldn't determine your gender. I have been labelled transphobic for not wanting to date a trans person and I have been told that my aversion to female genitelia is because of a bias and I need to work through that. When my boundaries are respected, i'll begin to respect and even admire trans people. I'll still call them by their pronouns though.

Ok. Rant over. Peace. ✌️

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SW-User

I don't feel much like a man (but I also don't feel like a woman). I don't know exactly how to explain it. A trans person feels that there's a disconnect between their physical body and their mind. A cis person doesn't feel that. It isn't that anything "proves" you're a woman, you just know you are. I don't think it's really possible for someone isn't trans to exactly fathom what it's like to have that "disconnect".

You're a woman because your physical sex matches your mental sense of gender. Like it does for most people in the world. For the few where it doesn't, they're trans.

Some trans people get overzealous and it's disappointing because they just alienate themselves further. They're not helping anyone understand. They're just making sure that people dismiss them outright. But this is also not most trans people. The overzealous ones don't represent all of them.

SW-User

@SW-User Well said. 🌹 If I may kindly ask, what's the difference between a man and a woman, mentally if not physically? Just trying to understand really.

SW-User

@SW-User I'm going to be bad at explaining this, but essentially the way I see it is that gender is clearly more than just sex organs, it's a whole set of social and physical characteristics. If you're trans, you feel that those characteristics of the gender not matching your physical sex should apply to you (and maybe many of them already do). A lot of it is societal of course. It's like, you're physically male, but you want to be a woman in society; you feel you should be. (Your brain will already feel like it is, but the body won't).

SW-User

I agree that a lot of it is societal based. I might be incredibly wrong but I believe if we stop clinging so vigorously to gender expectations between men and women then a lot of this would be put to ease and people can just live happier. Women can act however they want and so can men. I think society should not enforce such adverse treatments between the two...maybe. I just really hate the stereotypes that come with it.