In-laws are wanting to do their own Easter egg hunt for our kid?

So I’ve spent a lot of time and what not getting ready for Easter. It’s our baby’s 2nd easter, she’s finally old enough to hunt for eggs and understand. I’ve had a little hunt planned out for easter morning, Easter bunny basket etc.. well grandpa and grandma (in-laws) are now wanting to do an egg hunt of their own.. I’m kind of like, in my mind wishing they wouldn’t so she doesn’t get confused. We want her to think of the Easter bunny as coming to our house.. should I just tell them not to this year? Is that rude ? And is it understandable.. with your wee ones, did any of you ever feel that way? Or am I being weird.. thanks !
When I was a kid I remember easter morning being a really intimate time with my parents.. not aunts, uncles, grandparents etc..

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cuppatea · 31-35, F

Why do you feel so insecure about sharing your child's love and attention with others?

It's not a good look.

Fernie · F

@cuppatea How is this insecurity??? "So I’ve spent a lot of time and what not getting ready for Easter. It’s our baby’s 2nd easter, she’s finally old enough to hunt for eggs and understand." I’ve had a little hunt planned out for easter morning, Easter bunny basket etc."
She already worked hard at this...why should the in laws barge in and change everything?

cuppatea · 31-35, F

@Fernie The kid is TWO years old. Give me a fucking break. It has nothing to do with the kid and everything to do with her ego and her power trip over her in laws -- more specifically her mother in law.

That's not respectful. It's damaging to her marriage and her child's relationship with her grandmother.

She is acting like a spoiled brat.

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

Wow.. I don’t understand where are these assumptions are coming from.. nothing is ruining our marriage, my husband totally agrees with me.. I’m just asking others if they’ve gone through this before and if it’s normal to feel that way.. apparently you feel it’s not which is fine.. for us, her first real easter is very special, we wanted to play easter bunny this year and not confuse her@cuppatea

cuppatea · 31-35, F

@Brassm0nk3y You sound exactly like my EX sister in law. Good luck with that. And I do not believe for one minute your husband agrees with you. You are putting him in a shitty situation and he is trying to walk a fine line.

BTW Other people who want to love your child IS A GOOD THING. Try to accept that.

JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F

@cuppatea Where do you get the idea she is insecure. This is not a grandparent's place. Ever. Not unless it is expressed by the parents. Nothing about this has to do with insecurity.

Fernie · F

@cuppatea geezus...you've taken this out to the cosmos...pole vaulting to conclusions. She just wants to stick with her own plans...that seems to be all she wants. Who said anything about the marriage. Projecting maybe?

Fernie · F

@Brassm0nk3y Of course your feelings are valid. This is YOUR baby and YOUR plans for Easter.

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

It’s sounds like you had a bad experience with your ex sister n law. We’d already invited them to come over and participate in our original egg hunt.. but for them to want to have a whole separate Easter with a separate easter bunny and eggs etc.. for her first easter I think is a little much.. and he 100% agreed even going as far as to say that he plans to mention to them that it’s a special time for us and would mean a lot if they could just be apart of our easter vs having their own celebration. @cuppatea

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@Fernie thank you so much for saying this Fernie! And for sticking up for me.. geeze people can be so cruel in their responses. Much love to you!

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@Fernie amen sista!

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@JaggedLittlePill thank you!! Amen to that.