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Can you recover from falling out of love?

It was a fluke meeting my husband. True by chance fate if you ask me. He was smart, charming and beyond handsome, driven..I day dreamed about him and the day we might marry.. I was so lucky he loved me back and has treated me so well ..and we actually got married 3 years in. We just had a baby a year ago. However things are very different from 7 years ago when we met. They started slowly.. then all of a sudden a downward spiral it’s seems..He’s stopped taking care of himself, the affection is 100% gone, he’s stopped shaving, gained weight and lost his job..he blew our 70k savings on beer. He drinks like there is no end in sight. I’m paying our 3k mortgage alone, and 8 months after getting fired he hasn’t even put his resume together. He farts and burps constantly about 6-7 times a day blatantly in my face despite my telling him it’s gross (and it is, it’s contributed to how I feel about him because it’s a lot and I don’t feel attracted anymore) so immature, not manly. he doesn’t help with the cook or cleaning but instead naps all day... there’s no intimacy..sexually or emotionally.. honestly, I look at him now and don’t even want to be intimate.. I feel repulsed, taken advantage of, no longer attracted...and truth be told despite many many months of trying to talk, trying to convince him to get help with what I suspect is depression.. there is no progress.. and over the past few days? I’ve found myself at threshold.. where I feel like I might be better off without him.. where I want a new life, a partner that is emotionally intelligent.. a partner that seems to actually care and know how to love. I want out.. and I realize I’ve hit rock bottom as far as my feelings for him go. So is there a way back up? We’ve had talks about it. He says he’s just expecting and waiting me to divorce him because he can tell- does that mean he’s given up? ... I don’t want to if there is a chance we can be saved. I’m just hoping one day the old guy I fell in love with will wake up and come back. And if there is even a thread of hope, I won’t let go. I’m at such a loss. I’ve been writing about this for many months.. I don’t know what to do.. has anyone had this happen and things turned around either through your efforts or your spouses? Is there a sign things are too damaged? I also come from a divorced family and I can’t imagine the pain my daughter having to grow up with a split family. I don’t want that for her...I’m so lost. Please help. Would really appreciate stories and advice.
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Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
I served my husband with divorce,he stopped drinking and became more affectionate.5 years ago.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
Oh wow! So he was shocked when you put the papers in front of him?@Butterflykisses24 if we get down to that.. which I think we are.. I may take that approach.. and we’ll ..if he signs he signs. I bet that’s how you felt too right?
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
@Brassm0nk3y yes and didnt want to lose me.We do love each other
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
That’s really sweet.@Butterflykisses24 he must really love you :)
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
@Brassm0nk3y he does