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Husband broke, wants to handmake Birthday gift?

Husband is unemployed. Long story short, super smart amazing guy (has been in the past) was but lately things have gone south. He was fired from his job for missing a lot of work after our new baby. He then blew 40k in savings over the last year. Granted, went into a deep depression after being fired. He hasn’t even tried to apply for jobs, while I’m over here working my butt off. He finally just started uber driving.. making a little money. For Christmas we held back on spending, and for my birthday he told me he was going to handmake my birthday present... there is this very odd part of me.. that doesn’t like that. I’ve had men in the way past not celebrate my birthday, or get me a gift or my birthday .. But I’m trying to think this isn’t that.. I’m trying to imagine he’s putting a lot of thought into this homemade gift and imagine it’s maybe special but there’s another part that’s is like umm this is kind of some baloney..what do you mean you can’t get me a birthday gift? (I’m literally taking him to Hawaii on a trip this weekend) I know finances are limited but didn’t think they were that bad (even though he’s going out to eat, and for beer a lot).. and I’m kind of thinking I’m upset that he wants to “homemake” my birthday gift. Should I just suck it up? Am I being a brat? Or wait and see what he makes before you judge type thing? Or it shouldn’t matter?... I just keep hearing my mom in my head saying “honey that’s just being lazy on his part”. He should definitely put some effort into at least getting something even if it’s small, not terribly expensive and thoughtful.
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Idk. But your online handle is the name of a mixed drink as well as a beastie boys song, so I would wait and see. Also tell him to get a temp job, or suck it up work at a grocery store. I've worked a few of those in my life, they are usually pretty easy and the people aren't awful.