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Husband, attorney - Would Rather do Uber than start own company or look for another job?

My husband is an attorney.. has been for 15 years.. a year ago we had a baby, 6 months after that, he was fired from his job of 10 years for being “unreliable”. He has spent the last 8 months not looking for a job, but using his retirement to go out to eat and drink alcohol, not even ONCE wanting to put together his resume. I’ve pulled out the laptop, finally at the 6th month unemployed mark and was like I“hey let’s put together your resume. We started on it, got 2 sentences in and he started crying - just super depressed. I’m so confused because I’ve had friends offer to give him work - tried to encourage him to do consulting, start his own business, offer to help etc.. and every time those things come up - he just shuts down, wants nothing to do with it. Makes up excuses like I don’t practice that area of law..that’s too difficult to do type thing.. it’s crazy. He has an MBA and a law degree.. and now all he wants to do is start Uber driving. He doesn’t want to look for another job. He’s blown through literally 40k in savings just doing nothing for 8 months. I can not wrap my brain around why he has no drive. I’ve asked.. he just nods and says okay, that’s a good idea but never will actually try. I ask why.. again he comes in with all the weird excuses.. it’s a horribl weird circle and I’m really starting to question if he’s just lazy, depressed - makes poor decisions. Never seen anything like it in my life. He’s the best dad, I wouldn’t ever leave him but I’m bewildered at this point. Anyone have any ideas why this is or what to do? Can anyone relate ?

And by the the way I want to add, nothing wrong with Uber - but with so much education and experience I don’t know why he wouldn’t just try to freelance/ look for something that pays better/good hours/benefits and is safer
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marsbar · F
His confidence must have plummeted after getting fired. Now he’s questioning whether or not he’s cut out to be a lawyer.

Maybe have him uber for a bit. At least he’ll be earning something, but have him create a short term goal. For example, he’ll try ubering for a mth, & then reassess his career goals after that. Being an uber driver doesn’t require being as thorough or analytical as a lawyer. Maybe his mind needs a break from that still even though he’s had an 8 mth break already.