Why is it that I'm always attracted to problematic/weird and sketchy girls?

I, for real, don't do it on purpose, in fact, I wish I wasn't attracted to girls who are like that, I wish I could be content with regular, nice girls like all of my friends but I can't. Whenever I'm getting into a relationship with a "normal" girl, I feel like something is lacking, I get bored really fast and when they're too emotional I'm just like done, I can't stand that, if they're either too clingy or overly sweet, I'm telling you, I get diabetes right away. I mean, I do like when they show their love, just not in the traditional way, being too sweet or emotional really puts me off. I don't know what it is, but I'm usually attracted to troubled girls, and not like the ones who pretend to be troubled, I mean the real trouble makers that are gonna make your life a living hell. I always end up depressed and complaining after the relationship is over but IDK why I can't really be attracted to regular people, other girls are just boring to me and childish, so to say, I don't even know how to describe it. I was thinking about my past girlfriends and I realized not a single one of them was "normal", they were all either very promiscuous and everybody told me not to trust them, had real psychological problems like depression or bipolar disorder, were very aggressive overall, were into stuff that would shock pretty much everybody. Like I said, I kinda wish it wasn't like that, it always gets me into a lot of trouble, and I didn't realize I was only attracted to this kinda girls until recently, my question is why does this happen?

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LyricalOne · F

Maybe you don’t think you deserve any better.

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BrokenWhiskeyGlass2 · 22-25, M

@LyricalOne No, I actually thought about that, and I'm aware that I cannot change people and it's more often than not, not a good idea. I don't try to change them, I do try to help them if they want me to but I'm aware you can't and shouldn't try to change somebody against their will or mold them into something that they're not, but I do feel like I become a better person whenever I'm paired with someone like that oddly enough.

LyricalOne · F

@BrokenWhiskeyGlass2 Lol..... I guess by comparison you would feel like a better person.

BrokenWhiskeyGlass2 · 22-25, M

@LyricalOne Not like compared to them, I meant, I try to better myself for some reason, I wouldn't be with someone who I consider inferior to me to make me feel better, that'd be very douchey, what I meant is, whenever I've had a girlfriend who's like that, I feel motivated to become a better person and improve my overall situation, I think partly it's because I want to better myself for them and offer them the better version of me, IDK, I know it's stupid and it's probably a bad idea but that's what I've noticed I tend to do. On the other hand, with normal girls, I don't get that feeling of wanting to better myself or that motivation, I just get bored too quickly and don't wanna be around them much. I just feel like there's always a much better connection between me and a girl with issues than a normal one. Anyhow, thanks a lot for taking the time to read all this and reply, I appreciate it, looks like nobody else did, haha, and to me this is kinda important.

Mindful · 56-60, F

You’re Xdicted to “feelings” and emotion... they draw your compassion. When you realize you can’t fix people... you will tire of it. When you set your own goals and are drawn to your own purpose in life you will move on. But as long long as you are drawn to “saving” girls from themselves or life, you will be sucked in by the drama. Is possible you are drawn to the fact they have had to grow up fast and there’s no time for bullshit, but their bullshit is still there and in the way if you are Geri g tore le of them/it.i guess you are a compassionate person, who wants a girl to feel cared about. Someday you’ll realize or meet a sweet girl that also needs your love, , oh wait... you don’t want to love someone like that because it doesn’t have enough drama? Or pain to draw you in.... yet your other relationships don’t last? Strange.

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