Why have you ghosted someone?

@MorbidCynic I see. Thats...unfortunate.

I know, it sucks. I bought a whole violin and music books and maybe only practiced 3 times 😂 that’s a couple hundred down the drain @ArtisticStatic

@MorbidCynic I invest heavily in people even though they inevitably disappoint and hurt me. I need that connection. As such I find ghosting to be beyond hurtful and incredibly disrespectful, on a one human to another sort of level. Which is why I asked this question. I want to understand the reasons.

@ArtisticStatic idk maybe I’m just heartless but I feel like if we aren’t friends or I hardly know you, then I assume the person wouldn’t care either way.

@MorbidCynic I don't think it makes you heartless. However, I do think you should'nt guess at how another person views a situation. A passing conversation is one thing, but if we have been talking for a few days or whatever, then you suddenly vanish - I am going to wonder why. What did I say? Did I offend you? What happened? I thought we were getting along well, I thought we could be friends.

See what I mean? You can't know what the other party thinks or feels if you don't ask and are not open with them. In that scenario, you have walked away from a potential friend because you assumed the reality of the situation.

@ArtisticStatic well, I obviously left because I didn’t want anything to do with them. So I doubt losing a potential friend even matters at that point. Idk I had people ghost me and it never bothered me. I don’t see the point in caring about someone who obviously wasn’t meant to be in my life.

@MorbidCynic That's a different situation than what we were discussing. If you left because you didn't want to do anything do with them - Why not say "Hey, this isn't working. So I am going to go my own way." It's not much but is a decent and respectful thing to do. Assuming the didn't do something to not deserve that respect.

What I am about to say does not reflect on you, nor is it about you personally - This is my own personal opinion. I think ghosting without a reason, such as this person has been a creeper or was incredibly rude to a person - I think without a "valid" reason - Ghosting is cowardly. Every person should start at a point of very basic respect.