How do I tell him I want more of him?

This guy added me on Facebook last year and he messaged me to tell me that I was cute. So, great, right?

Him and I have been kind of talking for a while and I've been going to his house a lot. We have sex and cuddle when I stay the night. However that's pretty much it.

He holds my hand sometimes and the very last night I seen him, he kissed me and hugged me for a long time before I walked out the door.

I don't know how to approach him because he's so nonchalant about things. Like very relaxed and we haven't talked about anything important like that. I think he's just as scared as I am.

So how do I let him know that I want a little more with him without being broad about it? I don't want to scare him away.

And I'm also kind of scared of getting rejected because we have a good thing going right now. Hellllllp.

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LyricalOne · F

Do you go out and do things or is it just sex?

SaraxKay · 31-35, F

@LyricalOne We haven't gone out anywhere yet. All we've done is watch movies at his house and have sex.
Both of our work schedules are kind of off, but if I have the time to drive to his house to hangout then we have time to go out and actually do stuff.

I'm just so scared to ask, I've never been so non confident before like this.

LyricalOne · F

@SaraxKay Gotta tell ya, that's not a great sign. And it really sounds like you have nothing to lose by asking him out to lunch, dinner, a movie, whatever. Because if he says no to that, then at the end of the day, you're just a booty call.

SaraxKay · 31-35, F

@LyricalOne I felt the same way when I put myself in that position in the first place.

I didn't think I would have feelings like this with him because I didn't the first time. But once I came back into town he messaged me again to see how I was doing.

I invited him somewhere tonight, but he had to work an overnight shift. He never turns down to me inviting him somewhere, it's just my work schedule and his work schedule interfere sometimes.

LyricalOne · F

@SaraxKay Then I'm confused. You said you haven't gone out anywhere yet, that you've just watched movies at his house and had sex.

Bottom line is you two need to start seeing the light of day outside of his bedroom if there's going to be any chance of a real relationship. If he wants that, it's a good thing. If he's resistant, you also have your answer.