How do I tell him I want more of him?

This guy added me on Facebook last year and he messaged me to tell me that I was cute. So, great, right?

Him and I have been kind of talking for a while and I've been going to his house a lot. We have sex and cuddle when I stay the night. However that's pretty much it.

He holds my hand sometimes and the very last night I seen him, he kissed me and hugged me for a long time before I walked out the door.

I don't know how to approach him because he's so nonchalant about things. Like very relaxed and we haven't talked about anything important like that. I think he's just as scared as I am.

So how do I let him know that I want a little more with him without being broad about it? I don't want to scare him away.

And I'm also kind of scared of getting rejected because we have a good thing going right now. Hellllllp.

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Africalaskin · 26-30, F

I always felt the same way but the truth will come out sooner or later.
I've learned that if things are going great not all the time do we have to give in and ask for more right then and there. Letting things play out can be better.
However, I understand the need for answers. The only way you get that is through your own words. You have to talk to him and no one can really tell you how. You know him better than we do, darling. Dont be scared though, if its not meant to be and he does reject you...then at least you'll know you won't be wasting a bunch if time on someone that doesn't care.

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@Africalaskin great advice

SaraxKay · 31-35, F

@Africalaskin You're right, most definitely. I've been a friend with benefits before with someone else but I didn't have feelings for him.

But this guy is interesting, and I like interesting. But I've got to learn how to put my big girl panties on and try.