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When I first met my mother in law, she came to stay with us after B was born.

to be honest I don’t remember if it was her first visit or second to our place up north but either way we didn’t know each other well when she shared this info with me. She told me she left bfs dad because she would be trying to have a whole conversation with him, talking about things, and he would have like the smallest responses if even anything other than “yeah”. Not in a mean way. He just, wasn’t conversational. Well his son, my bf, or ex bf, does the same thing. It’s really confusing to be with someone like that. I feel so unsupported by him. I don’t feel like he’s being cold or heartless with his short responses I feel like he’s just dumb. It drives me crazy. It was weird though how she told me that, I thought
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Sounds like he's either zoned out, or he's listening but doesn't know what to say or add to the conversation.

I think we men get in trouble a lot, for always wanting to try to fix a situation, instead of just listening...

And maybe the Mom some how subconsciously was punishing them for being too involved and so they sort of just kept it light and short as a subconscious defense mechanism, of being unsure how to deal with her and that being the safest route.
meggie · F
My bf visited his wife's sister today and remarked how weird it is that she never mentions her or asks after her. When she was alive she tried so hard to have a sisterly relationship, but failed. I do think some people only care about themselves.
Miram · 31-35, F


Well his son, my bf, or ex bf,

You have tough decisions to make. You should not allow these things to happen to you instead of defining them yourself. You are a mother now and you need to build yourself a matriarchy with or without him. That cute baby of yours deserves the best.
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Miram · 31-35, F
@Notsimilarreally

When you say ex bf or bf, it means you are not deciding what he should be for you. You just letting things happen.

Since I am not welcomes, sure. I wish you and your child a far better and healthier future. And I am sorry that things have been chaotic and unpredictable for you.
AuRevoir · 36-40, M
Maybe you should have a conversation with her about it. Let her know how he’s like father like son. And gauge her reaction.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@AuRevoir why?
AuRevoir · 36-40, M
@Notsimilarreally Seems like you’ll find not only answers, but an ally in influencing better behavior from your partner if you do..
Cuda6868 · 51-55, M
I’m like that as well, the SO calls me Treebeard 😆 “and we never say anything unless it is worth taking a long time to say”
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@Cuda6868 it’s not always a bad thing, but when it comes to certain topics it can be pretty hurtful.
Cuda6868 · 51-55, M
@Notsimilarreally yeah I can see that. You two going to work on it or call it done. Hope you choose the former 🤔
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