Stigma and shame
I grew up with it my whole life since before even my first memories it was going on. It was my normal. I knew it wasnt everyones normal but that never mattered to me. I never questioned that it was just how things were for me and were gonna be.
The most shame and stigma I feel is when people find out I dont want pity or to hear how sad they are about my past. The look on their face when I dont react like the trauma victim they expect us all to be. The eventual hatred spewed my way when its clear I wouldnt change my past if I could because its part of me and changing it would kill who I am now.
Its really hard for people who went thru traumatic events to come forward and talk about them but when they do now most ppl shower them with praise and comfort. But for those of us who dont look back at it all with the same mindset get shunned as if we are somehow supporting it and are just as evil as the abusers. People think the world is black and white but its so many more shades of grey.
I know theres more ppl like me out there but they stay silent or quietly let people assume they are in the victim mindset so they dont have to try to explain how complicated it can actually be especially when ur main abuser was the person u loved with ur whole heart and soul growing up.
The most shame and stigma I feel is when people find out I dont want pity or to hear how sad they are about my past. The look on their face when I dont react like the trauma victim they expect us all to be. The eventual hatred spewed my way when its clear I wouldnt change my past if I could because its part of me and changing it would kill who I am now.
Its really hard for people who went thru traumatic events to come forward and talk about them but when they do now most ppl shower them with praise and comfort. But for those of us who dont look back at it all with the same mindset get shunned as if we are somehow supporting it and are just as evil as the abusers. People think the world is black and white but its so many more shades of grey.
I know theres more ppl like me out there but they stay silent or quietly let people assume they are in the victim mindset so they dont have to try to explain how complicated it can actually be especially when ur main abuser was the person u loved with ur whole heart and soul growing up.
