I had a really bizarre relationship with my babysitter [I Was Molested By My Babysitter]
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DrWatson · 70-79, M
I am very sorry this happened to you.
And what you say at the beginning is not strange. It is often the case, when someone has been molested by someone close to them, like a family member, or in your case a baby sitter, that the victim has a "split" memory of the abuser, because the abuser herself (or himself) displays a split personality. It is almost as if there were two of them: he "good" version and the abusive version.
Victims of abuse who I know say that this is part of what makes healing so complicated. They can remember the positive aspects of the relationship fondly at the same time that they cringe at the memories of the abuse.
You are not alone in dealing with that confusion. I just hope that you can continue to make progress in your recovery from this.
And what you say at the beginning is not strange. It is often the case, when someone has been molested by someone close to them, like a family member, or in your case a baby sitter, that the victim has a "split" memory of the abuser, because the abuser herself (or himself) displays a split personality. It is almost as if there were two of them: he "good" version and the abusive version.
Victims of abuse who I know say that this is part of what makes healing so complicated. They can remember the positive aspects of the relationship fondly at the same time that they cringe at the memories of the abuse.
You are not alone in dealing with that confusion. I just hope that you can continue to make progress in your recovery from this.
<3 i hope she went to jail
PerchingDove · F
@TryingtoLava She didn’t. At least not that I know of. If only
PepsiColaP · F
I'm so sorry this happened to you. More often than not molesters can present themselves as these harmless ,caring people and I cant imagine the pain of the realisation that this is only a facade. I hope you can overcome the trauma and lead the happy and healthy life you deserve.


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How really sad it happened to you ... 😣 And terrible that they chose to work with kids, knowing they're sick people.
If she did it with you it's likely she repeated that behavior 😔
If she did it with you it's likely she repeated that behavior 😔
JoePourMan · 61-69, M
Such a sad story. Your disconnected was both a blessing and a curse. A blessing in that it helped you get through the trauma, a curse because it stopped you from reporting it.
DaddyThomas · 46-50, M
You could still report her to the police , even years later
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DaddyThomas · 46-50, M
@PerchingDove it doesn’t matter where she lives. As long as you know her name you can tell what happened then
PerchingDove · F
@DaddyThomas I already know nothing will come of it. Even if I may vent about it once in a while, I’ve moved on and can only hope she hasn’t done it to anyone else.
DaddyThomas · 46-50, M
@PerchingDove that’s a great attitude!
texasborn89 · 31-35, M
Wow I'm sorry that happened to you
PerchingDove · F
@texasborn89 No. By the time I did speak up about years later, it was too late. She got away with it.
Spica · 31-35, F
You are a brave lady
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
I doubt she knew exactly what she was doing. People don't tend to be that smart, especially people who do shit like this. She probably did everything on an impulse and just got lucky that you were the kind of person who wouldn't tell on her.
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