Crying IS a sign of weakness
I used to think that crying was just a healthy outlet for emotional distress.
However as I have gotten older I have realized that it actually IS a sign of weakness.
And yea sometimes we are weak. Everyone is weak at times but lets not pretend like that is okay.
Crying is a physical representation of inability to control your emotions. It means that you have not been properly trained to deal with the second arrow of unhappiness.
The first arrow being the unpleasant event that happened. The second arrow hitting you that you shoot yourself being how YOU DECIDE to feel about that event.
Avoiding this second arrow (controlling how you decide to feel) is a practice that requires time and self discipline to master. Some people are better at this than others.
Mindfulness is not something you should have only when its easy to do and there are no challenges to your peace of mind. Control of your emotions is part of being mindful and is a hallmark of a healthy adult.
So yes crying IS a sign of weakness. It is weak control of your emotions and as such it makes perfect sense why it should not be acceptable if you want to be a strong person.
People say not to make decisions when you are angry because anger like sadness and crying is a condition where you are not able to make objective decisions. It is a form of insanity. This is also not effective in life. It is a weak way to set the course for your life. So if you are crying you lack mental fortitude and also probably are temporarily insane. For this reason theres nothing noble about crying. It should be a source of shame.
However as I have gotten older I have realized that it actually IS a sign of weakness.
And yea sometimes we are weak. Everyone is weak at times but lets not pretend like that is okay.
Crying is a physical representation of inability to control your emotions. It means that you have not been properly trained to deal with the second arrow of unhappiness.
The first arrow being the unpleasant event that happened. The second arrow hitting you that you shoot yourself being how YOU DECIDE to feel about that event.
Avoiding this second arrow (controlling how you decide to feel) is a practice that requires time and self discipline to master. Some people are better at this than others.
Mindfulness is not something you should have only when its easy to do and there are no challenges to your peace of mind. Control of your emotions is part of being mindful and is a hallmark of a healthy adult.
So yes crying IS a sign of weakness. It is weak control of your emotions and as such it makes perfect sense why it should not be acceptable if you want to be a strong person.
People say not to make decisions when you are angry because anger like sadness and crying is a condition where you are not able to make objective decisions. It is a form of insanity. This is also not effective in life. It is a weak way to set the course for your life. So if you are crying you lack mental fortitude and also probably are temporarily insane. For this reason theres nothing noble about crying. It should be a source of shame.
