Struggles & Identity > Thoughts

Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

I feel worried

I worry that my past will come back to haunt me. I was a bully in school and live in my hometown after being away at uni for a few years. I’m happy now, but worry that I’ll see the people that I picked on and that they will ruin things for me. It really stresses me out.

Top | New | Old

Busybee333 · 31-35, F

Show them who you've become. Explain how you weren't the best you back then, saying sorry now is probably late but those who are looking forward to a future where humanity is still valued will be kind to you for your efforts in being a good person. Recognizing your past mistake and showing that you have outgrown it and that you are now a a more compassionate person, is bound to speak for itself. Why not buy them a drink or something? ^^. If you don't want to do it in person, you could at least maybe write them a message? Or a call? They don't know the current you. Maybe they should? Courage :)

GoFish ·

still? have you never written them a letter of apology?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

One of the girls that I picked on I have and that’s been positive. I still can’t face the boys or some of the other girls. I’m just too worried that they may hit me or something@GoFish

TheHammer · 51-55, M

It should.
You should find them and apologize

Strongtea · 22-25, M

I can’t face most of them. I have apologised to one girl that I was awful to. @TheHammer

This comment is hidden. Show Comment

Strongtea · 22-25, M

I know that you’re right, I’ll try. I’m really scared to do it and I’ve spoken a lot about it on here. I’m just finding it so hard to get the courage to do it. @TheHammer

MellyMel22 · F

I sensed a big change in you from when I first saw you here. You’re not the same person. All you can do is move forward and if you run into those you bullied, apologize.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Thankyou. I do feel like I’ve changed, I still have the same history, but I think when I joined, I had a different attitude to the things I’ve done. I know I talk about it quite a lot on here but it’s really helped and everyone on here has inspired the change in me I think. Thanks for your advice. @MellyMel22

JonLosAngeles66 · M

Apologize first. It will diffuse any situation that could otherwise arise

View 2 more replies »

JonLosAngeles66 · M

@JonLosAngeles66 you'll feel better.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

A couple of people have said this to me and I did do it with one girl that way. I’m scared but will aim to do it!@JonLosAngeles66

JonLosAngeles66 · M

@Strongtea people are very forgiving.

Magicianzini · M

When you have struggle like this, you're supposed to ask yourself if an apology would hurt more than it would help.

And don't always think you 100% know the answer to that. For some it will cause more damage and for others it will help.

You can't push your apologies on those it will hurt. That's only more repetition of previous behavior.

Better you spend more energy on just forgiving yourself.

View 1 more replies »

TheHammer · 51-55, M

@Magicianzini
That's just fucking stupid

Magicianzini · M

@TheHammer So is your reply. Next ..

Magicianzini · M

@Strongtea All good. Wishing you work it all out.

Starguy · 26-30, M

How bad did you pick on them? If you're still worried about revenge all these years later... What did you do to them?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

It was just verbal stuff, but it was constant, everyday for years. I made their lives horrid. @Starguy

Starguy · 26-30, M

@Strongtea Quite bad but eh... I was victim to this kind of stuff for years in secondary school. And to be honest, I don't even remember these people after all these years and got more serious things to worry about rather than plot revenge on them.

I think you will be fine haha, good chance they don't care anymore.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Thankyou for saying this. I really hope so. @Starguy

This comment is hidden. Show Comment

View 1 more replies »

RachelLia2003 · 22-25, F

@TheHammer thx softie😌 here is a soft flufffy cat just für your pink soft arse😌

TheHammer · 51-55, M

@RachelLia2003
It doesn't matter, you still hate yourself.
And if I were you, I would too.

RachelLia2003 · 22-25, F

@TheHammer thx😌

Add a comment...