how can i stop worrying about my mum getting older

i've always been close to my mother, very close, right since i was a toddler....and my mum lives far away from me now, i live alone in a little flat....my mother lives an hours drive from me now....and to be honest, here all alone there's times when i worry that she is getting older? my mum is elderly now but doing well for her age....i think deep down i'm scared of my mother leaving me and no longer being around?

that would devastate me so much, i think at that point i would leave this world too...i couldn't bare to live or carry on without my mum...i know that i couldn't.

what can i do when i worry like this? i love my mother to the stars, my mum is very special to me...and everything i do i do to honour my mum, and live according to the way she brought me up.

in general i suffer with a personality disorder, so, a hard mental disorder.....and my only support system is literally my mum and dad, they've been separated over 30 years now...i love my dad, he's great but i'm closest to my mum.

does anyone have any thoughts about all this?

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Punches · 46-50, F

There are a lot of people our age who are either scared of the future or do not even like to think about it.

It's rough because when we were young, our elders always seemed to have this brilliant advice about how to handle things but now, that just doesn't happen.

Our support system does shrink as we age. When we were kids, it was hard to count how many people were in our lives but that dwindles.

We get to a point where we think, "Well NOW what?"
Marriage, raising kids, some lucrative career, all that is either over or never happened in the first place. It's by our late 40's, there's just not much else to look forward to. We know better than to dream.

Some older people have a big family still, consisting of younger folks mostly, but what if someone just doesn't have that?

I know none of this helps, just my thoughts.

Maybe ask your parents how to handle the situation, like when they are gone.

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@Punches it helped a great deal, thankyou for sharing your thoughts, i understood everything you wrote and i appreciated your perspective.

Lostpoet · M

Your mum or dad isn't going to die anytime soon. Just focus on the time you have together with them now and continue to carry it on with other people when they pass. That's probably what they want most from you is to know when they do pass away you'll have the ability to keep living your life the best way that you can.

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@Lostpoet thanks so much for answering, upon reading your words i think you are right...they would want me to be happy and live my life, when they pass on.....i found it a comfort as well when you said my parents aren't going to pass away anytime soon, thankyou, i think a lot of this is because i spend too much time alone and overthinking.

Monalisasmith86 · 36-40, F

You can’t stop it

WowwGirl · 36-40, F

Death is just another path we all must take

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