I Feel Sick When I Think Of My Past And Future

My husband keeps saying to me that I keep telling him how someone is harassing me ...he said to me tonight, “for 10 years you’ve been saying this.” So I said and not before that? We’ve been married for 25 years and I’ve spent 10 of those feeling harassed bullied and hated. I can’t function like that.

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SoFine · 46-50, F

In long-term relationships - each push the others old insecure button.

That saying "Are you upset for the reason that you think you are or is it a reminder of an old wound or similar event" ?

Till you heal old past hurts, they will be on repeat or similar patterns of behavior.

If it's shit, why stick around? Go ......

Remember you could be in a new marriage, yet soon you will repeat your same patterns of behavior even with a different husband.

Your inner self will prevail, if you are an insecure person, to change your mate won't have you be happier, short term yes, yet you will revert to your "normal set point of being"

To be
To be happy or not....it's how you be with you.