I Would Like to See What My Future Holds
I'm at another new beginning. I'm ok with that. But I also want to have hopes for the future.
My abusive marriage ended over two years ago. My recent relationship of a year has just ended.
I'm currently being told by friends that I need to work on myself, I need to be alone and be comfortable with myself. To focus on my daughters (I have 60% custody)
In fact I was alone for over a year. I had counselling for a year. I didn't go looking for a relationship I didn't met my bf on a date or dating website but when I met him I took the opportunity for happiness. It hasn't worked out n I recognised the problems n ended it. It also a very loving mom who makes my daughters the centre of my world. There's nothing else I can do to "focus on them" so this bit of advice is quite insulting.
So I feel that the advice I'm being given isn't fair.
I'm constantly working on myself - human beings evolve n grow I don't see this as a process that will end.
I'm comfortable with myself n capable living alone. I did it for over a year after my marriage
My question is ; Is it really wrong to hope that this isn't my permeant state? That one day I'll meet a calm loving balanced man who sees in me beauty and value that doesn't need to be changed n controlled but supported n trusted. Who sees my scars n the damage of the past n understands me n sees the survivor I am, not use the knowledge as weapons. A man that will take my huge heart, loyalty, and support in his life and value what I have to give. That will see beauty in my daughters n how they can enrich his life with their generous love. A man who will not need more than I have to offer n not look elsewhere.
Am I really asking the universe for too much?
Ps this is not an open invitation for lots of men to hit on me lol. Just putting my thoughts out there x
My abusive marriage ended over two years ago. My recent relationship of a year has just ended.
I'm currently being told by friends that I need to work on myself, I need to be alone and be comfortable with myself. To focus on my daughters (I have 60% custody)
In fact I was alone for over a year. I had counselling for a year. I didn't go looking for a relationship I didn't met my bf on a date or dating website but when I met him I took the opportunity for happiness. It hasn't worked out n I recognised the problems n ended it. It also a very loving mom who makes my daughters the centre of my world. There's nothing else I can do to "focus on them" so this bit of advice is quite insulting.
So I feel that the advice I'm being given isn't fair.
I'm constantly working on myself - human beings evolve n grow I don't see this as a process that will end.
I'm comfortable with myself n capable living alone. I did it for over a year after my marriage
My question is ; Is it really wrong to hope that this isn't my permeant state? That one day I'll meet a calm loving balanced man who sees in me beauty and value that doesn't need to be changed n controlled but supported n trusted. Who sees my scars n the damage of the past n understands me n sees the survivor I am, not use the knowledge as weapons. A man that will take my huge heart, loyalty, and support in his life and value what I have to give. That will see beauty in my daughters n how they can enrich his life with their generous love. A man who will not need more than I have to offer n not look elsewhere.
Am I really asking the universe for too much?
Ps this is not an open invitation for lots of men to hit on me lol. Just putting my thoughts out there x
