An important distinction to make is... are you projecting yourself onto your child?

What I mean is, are you living vicariously through your kid as opposed to letting your kid grow up and experiencing life the way they're meant to experience it?

I'm not saying it's ok for them to do terrible things like crime and drugs.

What I'm saying is, if they're making a decision that may not lead to a good career or maybe they're marrying the wrong person or something, I don't know... are you supportive of them regardless of the outcome?

Are you going to be able to be the parent that will provide them the support they need if they realize they failed?

Forging that emotional bond and talking with your child and giving your perspective, that's ok. Just don't force them to do anything. At the end of the day, offer that advice and leave them to make their decision regardless of the outcome.

When they realize they made a mistake, they will think of you and your emotional bond will be stronger because of it. They're not going to grow to resent you, they're going to grow to respect you because it's a lot easier to love and appreciate someone who is there for them as opposed to someone who forced them into a decision. They're going to make a mistake based on YOUR decision, not THEIRS. Hence, resentment will be against YOU as opposed to THEMSELVES.