Ok....so im going to brag but it all evens out. - I was a cute kid, - A very fat zittty kinda ugly teenager - Then an obsessive fit young adult who could do good make-up well. My attractiveness was painted on beauty, on a fit body.
....so ive spent time on both ends of the "attractiveness" spectrum. Ive been so ugly ive made kids cry....and ive appeared so socially beautiful ive had men flock to me. (Feels very weird to say that....but at the time it was true🤷♀)
It's a give and take on both sides. People can harass you for either good looks or bad.
People can also be friendly because of each.
But the biggest, most impactful thing i found from being attractive was - - you don't really know who your real friends are. Even if you are in the "in" group ....its all secretly competition. Its awful. I hated it. I hated it so much i only spent few months in it before i went back to my real friends and appreciated them so much more.
I actually feel a little sorry for those who are naturally stunning. (I could wash mine off).
Its a curse in some ways. People are drawn to you for all the wrong reasons. Its hard to be appreciated for your soul and your character.
People think "if i was beautiful itd fix all my insecurities"
It doesnt
It actually comes with even more insecurities. ....or obsessive vanity.
Nearly all the beautiful people i knew were either deeply shy underneath and their gentle nature's were never shown.... or, they were THAT insecure about how they looked....it took up the majority of their attention.
I love that im quite plain. That i can paint beauty on if i want . But that i can also be invisable.
And because im no stunner....i have a few genuine friends.
I think its way harder for beautiful people to get/find, genuine friends.
I’m in pretty good shape for my age, but it’s totally different at 65. Men will flat out tell you look good. Younger women will smile, as if saying “good job” silently. But, it’s different because it’s definitely NOT sexual. Mature women will smile and are more apt to strike up a conversation.
Life treats me well because I enjoy it and work hard. It has little to nothing to do with my looks at 65. I try to look good for me. I dress well and typically wear a smile. That seems to get the job done.
I honestly wouldn't know. My niece (same age,large family) was gorgeous like a movie star ,but she knew how to play it and she didn't take a lot of crap from anybody. When, I look at back when I was young and attractive- it caused me mostly problems I had no idea how to work it and I didn't like the attention. I think you need confidence in yourself for things to go well whether plain or gorgeous.
