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SW-User
Well.. if it makes you feel better, 90% of the people on are messed up in one way or another.
For instance, I hate being alone but I force my surrounding to make sure I end up alone. I like to talk to people but I have anxiety and agoraphobia.
I tend to be a happy person but my depression has been acting up a lot more lately, which is worrying because I know where it'll lead me.
Just like me you've got to try and think about the good things.
For instance, in a few months you'll have a tiny little being that'll be staring at you without judgement or hatred. Just love, need and curiosity. You'll have a permanant best friend for the rest of your life.
For instance, I hate being alone but I force my surrounding to make sure I end up alone. I like to talk to people but I have anxiety and agoraphobia.
I tend to be a happy person but my depression has been acting up a lot more lately, which is worrying because I know where it'll lead me.
Just like me you've got to try and think about the good things.
For instance, in a few months you'll have a tiny little being that'll be staring at you without judgement or hatred. Just love, need and curiosity. You'll have a permanant best friend for the rest of your life.
VioletSea · 26-30, F
@SW-User This is exactly how I feel eveeyday.
I'm trying to learn how to be social and maje friends but it is so easy to go back to the miserable comfort of seclusion.
My depression was awful at some points, but I fought to be happy and now I am more nentally balanced and can take care of myself.
I'm afraid that even if I introduced a new little one into the world, it might even hate me, or I'll just be as apathetic and disconnected from life.
I'm trying to learn how to be social and maje friends but it is so easy to go back to the miserable comfort of seclusion.
My depression was awful at some points, but I fought to be happy and now I am more nentally balanced and can take care of myself.
I'm afraid that even if I introduced a new little one into the world, it might even hate me, or I'll just be as apathetic and disconnected from life.
SW-User
@VioletSea I have sociopathic tendancies... or so my former therapist said. I don't care about very much but holding a baby in your hands(and I was just an uncle) is a strange feeling. The overwhelming desire to look after the little being or make it smile is indescribable.
I believe that you'll feel differently once you've had the baby; I don't think it will stop you from sometimes being withdrawn or anti-social but I do believe that you won't be apathetic. You'll find that you'll fill your void with the baby's laughter. At least that was the case for me.
As for the isolating yourself, I agree that it's easier than making friends. You don't have to speak to someone everyday or go out with them every night to be friends with someone. A friend can just be someone who you speak to occasionally or you nod at as you walk down a hallway. Someone you share a smile with.
You don't need to work too hard, just put in a little effort here and there. A small smile, ask about someone's day or even say hello. A friendship that requires you to work excessively isn't worth it anyway.
I believe that you'll feel differently once you've had the baby; I don't think it will stop you from sometimes being withdrawn or anti-social but I do believe that you won't be apathetic. You'll find that you'll fill your void with the baby's laughter. At least that was the case for me.
As for the isolating yourself, I agree that it's easier than making friends. You don't have to speak to someone everyday or go out with them every night to be friends with someone. A friend can just be someone who you speak to occasionally or you nod at as you walk down a hallway. Someone you share a smile with.
You don't need to work too hard, just put in a little effort here and there. A small smile, ask about someone's day or even say hello. A friendship that requires you to work excessively isn't worth it anyway.
Majorlatency · M
VioletSea · 26-30, F
@Majorlatency i don't get it lol
Peekaboo20 · 26-30, F
Pregnancy is supposed to increase your happiness. Is the dad a loser?
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VioletSea · 26-30, F
@Peekaboo20 I'll try. Prenatal depression sinks me but when the little bean makes me hungry or tired I giggle and feel ok again