whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
Dont wait for this to go away. It wont. But your need to get some things done will gradually start to paper over a couple of the cracks in your life. There will be a moment. Then a minute, that you dont have time to remember. And the more you do to deal with today, the less time you will have to dwell on the past. Then something will happen. A little thing. And you will know without thinking what he would have said, or thought about it..
At that moment you will realise he is still with you..😷
At that moment you will realise he is still with you..😷
It’s okay to not be okay so I keep getting told. Please be gentle and lean on your people it’s going to take a while before it hurts less. Anyone who expects you to be over it already clearly has never lost someone they love. He’s with you every single day. He lives on through those babies through your love. Remember it’s okay to not be okay. You’re not alone. Hug your family tight and know we are here for you im sorry Joel 🤗
Cigarguys · 41-45, C
@MyMonstersAreReal thank you chica, you have helped use so much. You mean so much to us
Mamapolo2016 · F
My father once told me that a doctor had told him that a woman’s body did not completely heal for two years after childbirth. “And that’s a natural process.”
I think loss of a loved one follows a similar course.
For some, it heals except for particular moments that slap you in the face and that scar in your heart opens again. For others, grief manifests differently.
When my late husband and I learned he had a malignant brain tumor and fought it for fourteen months there wasn’t TIME to grieve, amid the hospitalizations and the meds and the chemo. Nose to the grindstone. Find that new doctor, make sure the doctors are talking to each other, treat him like a husband instead of a patient.
The day he stopped fighting, he died in our home, by his choice. He was tired. I truly do not remember much about the months after I lost him.
During those months, there were two things happening. Real life continued, formed around an immense crater in that life.
Every time you pull two coffee mugs from the cupboard, every time you buy groceries, every time you wake up and see the pillow where they used to be…it’s agonizing. You still have to make car payments, and get along with difficult colleagues, keep the lights on.
EP, predecessor to Similar Worlds, and a support group for cancer caregivers, were the fuel that kept me going through those dark times. Somebody was always awake and willing to listen on EP at 3 in the morning when I was falling apart.
It is surprisingly valuable to talk to and spend time with people who have been where you’re standing.
I strongly recommend that you take the time to find a group like that.
😥
I think loss of a loved one follows a similar course.
For some, it heals except for particular moments that slap you in the face and that scar in your heart opens again. For others, grief manifests differently.
When my late husband and I learned he had a malignant brain tumor and fought it for fourteen months there wasn’t TIME to grieve, amid the hospitalizations and the meds and the chemo. Nose to the grindstone. Find that new doctor, make sure the doctors are talking to each other, treat him like a husband instead of a patient.
The day he stopped fighting, he died in our home, by his choice. He was tired. I truly do not remember much about the months after I lost him.
During those months, there were two things happening. Real life continued, formed around an immense crater in that life.
Every time you pull two coffee mugs from the cupboard, every time you buy groceries, every time you wake up and see the pillow where they used to be…it’s agonizing. You still have to make car payments, and get along with difficult colleagues, keep the lights on.
EP, predecessor to Similar Worlds, and a support group for cancer caregivers, were the fuel that kept me going through those dark times. Somebody was always awake and willing to listen on EP at 3 in the morning when I was falling apart.
It is surprisingly valuable to talk to and spend time with people who have been where you’re standing.
I strongly recommend that you take the time to find a group like that.
😥
Cigarguys · 41-45, C
@Mamapolo2016 those moments are the hardest, pouring two drinks, grabbing two cigars. It hurts more when one of the kids do it and it hits them all over again.
We are all getting help. We're all seeing therapists or counselors right now. We take the time and do mental health checks with everybody multiple times a day. But it still hurts like hell.
We are all getting help. We're all seeing therapists or counselors right now. We take the time and do mental health checks with everybody multiple times a day. But it still hurts like hell.
Javjan · 36-40, M
What caused him to knock the bucket over?
Man, i felt every bit of that.
Man, i felt every bit of that.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
My husband died a year and 2 months ago.
It still hurts; the longing is still there, and I still think it was terribly unfair.
But what can we do but keep going?
Go slower, cry the whole day if you need to; if something doesn't get done, there is tomorrow- you are allowed to grieve the death of someone you love for as long as you need to
It still hurts; the longing is still there, and I still think it was terribly unfair.
But what can we do but keep going?
Go slower, cry the whole day if you need to; if something doesn't get done, there is tomorrow- you are allowed to grieve the death of someone you love for as long as you need to
Javjan · 36-40, M
@Justmeraeagain it's funny how we frame fairness In a world with no apparent arbitrator
Wish there were words that could take away such profound sadness. But grief comes down to that walk nobody wants to take, along the painful path. Yet somehow, step by step, day by day, there comes a time when there’s some light up ahead and with it a glimmer of hope, a feeling of relief as the pain starts to subside. Never entirely, but just enough to keep moving towards a life worth living, where memories of them bring more smiles than tears and there’s comfort in knowing that they’ll forever remain in your heart and mind.
I'm so sorry...
I have no words to comfort cause missing someone who was so close to you especially when you are reminded with his little things hurts a lot n nothing in the world could bring you solace. Except God, if you believe.
I can't even fathom.
It is supposed to hurt more cause the reality is still dawning on all of you... one month is too soon.
Prayers for all of you.
I have no words to comfort cause missing someone who was so close to you especially when you are reminded with his little things hurts a lot n nothing in the world could bring you solace. Except God, if you believe.
I can't even fathom.
It is supposed to hurt more cause the reality is still dawning on all of you... one month is too soon.
Prayers for all of you.