Why people leave
Doesn't matter how close you are with you friends and family there is always a day where everone leaves you ... I don't know why this happen . Has anyone ever left you whom you were very close to ????
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Life can take us on different paths so lots of old friends and family who drifted apart for no real reason than we went different ways, had different priorities, obligations, etc.
Reconnecting with someone from a different phase of your life is a bit chancy in that it may be like an intrusion, or that you both migrated enough to practically erase the connection.
I have an interesting old HS classmate (we graduated 60+ years ago) who started emailing me about 25 years ago, professing his great memories of our childhood together, wanting to make sure we didn't lose our connection. So I write him back, filling in the years since, and ... NOTHING; he doesn't respond to my response, for another 5 or 6 years when he starts the cycle over, professing his great memories of our childhood together, etc. After 4 cycles of this he died. Every 5 or so years he'd email, I responded, then 5 years later he would write again, as if the previous exchanges never existed.
Reconnecting with someone from a different phase of your life is a bit chancy in that it may be like an intrusion, or that you both migrated enough to practically erase the connection.
I have an interesting old HS classmate (we graduated 60+ years ago) who started emailing me about 25 years ago, professing his great memories of our childhood together, wanting to make sure we didn't lose our connection. So I write him back, filling in the years since, and ... NOTHING; he doesn't respond to my response, for another 5 or 6 years when he starts the cycle over, professing his great memories of our childhood together, etc. After 4 cycles of this he died. Every 5 or so years he'd email, I responded, then 5 years later he would write again, as if the previous exchanges never existed.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@rolex928 It's a sad fact but most folk you know are there because something at the time drew you together.
If you meet when you're kids you experience a lot of 'firsts' together.
If you meet as teens chances are it was probably through school or because you lived nearby and attended a club or church at the same time.
Then as you get older people marry or move away and that's the end of it.
If you meet when you're kids you experience a lot of 'firsts' together.
If you meet as teens chances are it was probably through school or because you lived nearby and attended a club or church at the same time.
Then as you get older people marry or move away and that's the end of it.
rolex928 · 31-35, M
@Picklebobble2 do read my latest question as it doesn't describe why I asked this question
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
I don't see relationships that way. Once I get to know a person and spend some time with them, have mutual memories etc. I consider them as someone I could renew a contact with if I want to. Only if they explicitly tell me to not contact them and leave them alone or don't even respond I'd understand it as rejection. I'm weird like that.
Most of them don't leave. They are busy with their life and have other priorities than interacting with me.
Most of them don't leave. They are busy with their life and have other priorities than interacting with me.
rolex928 · 31-35, M
@CrazyMusicLover it's seems u make a contract and then I renew it haha nice at least this way I can't get hurt
JamesBugman · 56-60, T
X gf. I had to make her an X because she was driving me nuts, even though I loved her with all my being. We were still close for years after, until one day she just left, and I never saw her again.
My love is still in place though, nothing left but the memories. She will be an old woman.
My love is still in place though, nothing left but the memories. She will be an old woman.
SW-User
They have their own needs? And it's not always fair, but if you think back upon you life, have you ever left even a friend? Most can't say they never have. I'm loyal to the hilts, but I have left friends. You just learn to grow and hopefully if you don't hold resentment, and they don't either, maybe one day you find yourself connected again? And if not, then it is a step along your way of what in this is called a journey and you just learn to love in your own way.
rolex928 · 31-35, M
@SW-User yes most people say that they never had left anyone but in my case I hardly remember that I have ever ditched some one but yeah some memories do come in my mind I think so I left some one from my university he was a friend had some misunderstanding and then we separated our paths
SW-User
@rolex928 Then maybe knowing you have, opens understanding how you have been, and we just learn our way from there. As you have done, what you are feeling loss for right now.
Pinkstarburst · 51-55, F
rolex928 · 31-35, M
@Pinkstarburst but what if there are no more people left my social circle is so small like a peanut
PoetryNEmotion · F
rolex928 · 31-35, M
@SW-User must have hurt a lot
SW-User
@rolex928 Do t let it. They have the problems not you.
invisiblewoman · 36-40, F
rolex928 · 31-35, M
@invisiblewoman and he left when his motives were fulfilled ?
invisiblewoman · 36-40, F
@rolex928 i guess
WatchThis · 41-45, M
Yep! I was apprehensive about the Covid vaccine and asked too many questions and was totally shut out by some of my family, until recently because my dad is dying
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
People die?
Not everyone leaves you before death.
As to other reasons unless you ask and get a reply you don't know.
Not everyone leaves you before death.
As to other reasons unless you ask and get a reply you don't know.
rolex928 · 31-35, M
@Justmeraeagain people do leave ...
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FreestyleArt · 31-35, M
Changing paths I guess. That's what I do. I left all my friends from the pasts......except a couple
Entwistle · 56-60, M
We all lose everything. It's called change.
It's constantly happening.
It's constantly happening.
DanielsASJ · 36-40, M
it's human tendency.
