@rexha Do you feel yourself become needy often in such situations, or does it seem to be relatively uncommon?

@Fernie: I do feel as though I push people away with my neediness. I blame myself much more than I blame them.

@rexha The really good thing is that you did not become defensive just now and seem to be trying to see the reality of the situation. Good for you! There's no doubt, based on your details, that you are causing this to happen. You're going to have to get help and support if you want to be strong and independent. That needs to be your goal or you will live a sad and lonely life depending on others