The true reason you're still here? 😏

@WhateverWorks I think it's till you actually explore different options like I did.

@Rilyn i’d be fine meeting nice people who don’t share my interests. It’s that often when they don’t share my interests, it turns out to be a clash and lifestyles/foundational beliefs etc, and end up being pretty important part of genuinely becoming friends.

@WhateverWorks Hm. They ghost you or what?

@Rilyn not really ghost.. is more like birds and fish trying to hang out lol. Ex: I read a lot of scholarly stuff. She didn’t read at all unless it was romance manga. Neither of us minded that the other didn’t share their interest, but ultimately it was a foreshadowing of some pretty big differences in what we care about, our views and priorities. It mostly just felt like forced conversation and the occasional laughter. There was nothing to talk about except for mundane in Adulting things that nobody particularly enjoys anyway like how the power bill keeps going up lol..

@WhateverWorks Sounds complicated for no real reason to be honest.

@Rilyn well, she didn’t see any point to learning about anything and relied entirely upon her husband to tell her what to think/believe. I couldn’t relate at all to her perception of relationships or what a marriage should look like.. it was just an intentionally small example anyway of how hobbies tell more about our lifestyles than we realize.

@WhateverWorks Sounds tricky indeed. But it just wasn't the interaction you wanted I suppose