why did this happen in this interaction

i was messaging a woman for years in her 50s on facebook, really affectionate messages to each other....i told her a couple of months ago that i really liked her and offered to give her my phone number...and since then she has pulled back from me?

she is in the process of getting a knee operation....but my last message to her a couple of weeks ago, she never answered? she is normally prompt with her replies and replies quickly......and now i'm left wondering what went wrong? why has she pulled back and not answering my PM?

i have paranoia anyway and are left thinking, has someone told her not to interact with me anymore? another man or men has told her not to interact with me anymore?...is it a conspiracy?

through my life, even though i had a few flings with girls in my late teens and i'm not a virgin...ive never had success with females...i always seem to get rejected or never hear from them again after a few interactions with them....i have never established any relationships yet and i'm now in my mid 40s..

so what happened with this woman, why have i not heard back from her for many weeks? does anyone think she has been instructed to not interact with me again or she has been told she is not allowed to interact with me?

because i feel really disappointed and i thought the messages with her on facebook were going to lead somewhere, to a possible relationship...so i feel very rejected and paranoid that she has been told to no longer contact me...

any opinions? sorry this is long.

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SW-User Best Comment

I had this exact thing happen recently. The offer to exchange phone numbers then the change in the perspective. It's not so much she is being instructed to not contact you. It is based on an online relationship that might not go anywhere. Could be she is not who she is in real life, and through embarrassment, needs to pull back. Nothing personal, it is just who she is. Hope that helps. In the meantime, just be yourself, there are others out there that will appreciate who you are

Jungleman · M

@SW-User thankyou so much mate for helping and answering.

SW-User

@Jungleman Thank you for best comment :)

Sweetthing · F

Have you ever considered this person was not who they said they were and then freaked when you offered to make it more real by giving them your phone number? Stop beating yourself up and move on already.

FTP2024 · 46-50, M

She meant more to you than what you meant to her. It's going to be painful, deal with it. Let her go.

Jungleman · M

@FTP2024 you're right i realized, and i have done so, thanks for replying.

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