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I Am a Deep Thinker

When bad things happen, people always want someone to blame. Some group or individual that can be the sole cause of what happened. They feel angry, and want a target for their anger.

It's like when school shootings happen, and people blame some music artist or genre for being a bad influence on kids. If the shooting is Marilyn Manson's fault, then that absolves them of any blame for themselves. They don't have to look at their own role in shaping the society that produced the shooters. They don't have to look at their own lackluster efforts to do anything about the rampant bullying plaguing our schools, or how easy it would be to end that bullying by lobbying for the same zero tolerance policy on bullying in schools that we have on violence in schools.

They don't have to look at their own thoughtless parenting practices. They don't have to look at all the times when they took the easy path with their kids, instead of the right path. They don't have to look at the bad role modeling they do in front of their kids when they yell at each other without restraint. They don't have to look at the hypocrisy of demanding discipline from their kids even while they fail to practice discipline in their own lives. They don't have to look at any of that stuff - because it's all Marilyn Manson's fault.
AmayaTsuki
It's always easier to place the blame on others than to take responsibility for your own actions. After all, if you make a mistake, then you have to work in order to change. If someone else makes a mistake, you don't have to do anything. You can keep believing that everything you do is perfect and the rest of the world is messed up.
BlueDiver · 36-40, M
Yup - Working retail, we've both experienced what it's like when something goes wrong for reasons that have nothing to do with us, and the group customers choose to scapegoat is "the people on the other side of the counter." Sometimes they're blaming us for their own mistakes, but sometimes it's the kind of situation where no one did anything wrong at all. But they need someone to blame, and we're the "other" in that situation - so they blame us.
katappi
I think you may be exactly right. Even when people admit that everyday people are one of the big problems, they talk like OTHER people are the problem. "People should recycle," but if I don't, well, I'm only one person and it has no effect...and so on.

 
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