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I Am Confused About My Feelings

Im about to get involved with a much older and married man. I don't know what to do. He sais its all ok and hes just curious about me but it feels wrong. Even though I like how he makes me feel. What do I do?!
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
I don't know how old you are @nono1834. I assume old enough to make your own life decisions and that you are single and not encumbered presently. So I'll start there.

I've been the older married man before and can share some of my positive life experiences with you (they may apply or not to your situation).

If he is "interested" in you and is aware of your life circumstances.. He loves you, but is obligated to his wife (and family) FIRST in any relationship ya'll establish.
You will be cherished and loved, but probably not provided for.
You will be #2, not #1 in his sex life.
He will love you as long as you are in love with him and are sexually happy with the situation (his shared time, etc).
You will always be a threat to his "normal" way of life (being able to expose his affair with you)... So YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF THINGS once you begin.
YOU (maybe) will be obligated to be monogamous to HIM, but he will still have two lovers (you and his wife). This was NOT my experience(s), but I believe in POLYANDRY. Most men do not.. This puts you in a "needy" and "submissive" role in the relationship.

It really depends on what you are looking for in a sexual relationship..

Good Luck and Best wishes to you both..
nono1834 · 26-30, F
Thanks, that helped me a lot.
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
@nono1834: I hope so.. PM me with any other questions/thoughts on the matter..
Rule number 1: Stay away from married men.
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
@nono1834: Married partners will not smother you with demands and have clingy expectations.. It becomes focused on love and sex.
Dreammmer · 56-60, M
@polyandrym66: lol u contadict yourself, cheating and using women for ur own sexual gratification is not love at all
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
@Dreammmer: I never cheated with my partners. I'm honest. BUT most of those married lovers (men and woman) were with me in secret. I encouraged them to open up and move our r'ship into a threesome with their partner(s).. Most did over time...
Maybe some fun for a while, but hurt long time.
Teirdalin · 31-35
Stupidest mistake of your entire life. Gg.
KimmyGary · F
you will b sorryyyyy if u do your an idiot
MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M
I guess it all depends on what you are looking for a long term relationship or just some fun and the excitement of being in an illicit relationship
nono1834 · 26-30, F
Im fresh out of a real bad relationship. Just looking for some fun
MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M
Then as long as he understands that and isn't looking for more then why not
Newandimproved · 61-69, M
there are no guarantees regardless of the age

but perhaps he will appreciate your attention and your youth in a way someone of your age does not

did you give him a shot yet?
nono1834 · 26-30, F
Yes I did and you are right!
OzDiver · 61-69, M
I'm sorry to say, but your feelings WILL get hurt eventually. Don't do it. It will only end in your tears.
iMystery · M
It will DEFINITELY be fun.. but it will cause you much emotional confusion.
olderguy2016 · 70-79, M
only you alone can a decision.take your own view
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