Do you get confused with yourself?

I sometimes don’t know how to differentiate when I am standing up for myself or making a big deal. Sometimes I think I am dramatic when I set boundaries or ask what I need, maybe it’s because any time I tried expressing my feelings as a kid or even an adult some ppl made me feel like I was making a big deal or my feelings are valid so now I find myself confused at times in my head what’s okay and not okay. Do any of you feel this way sometimes?