daydeeo · 70-79, M
A lot of the "privilege" b.s. is just excuse-making for their own lack of accomplishment, just another way of claiming victimhood.
I dont necessarily love peoples' flaws because it makes them unique, but I am learning to love people in spite of their flaws, learning to get past their flaws and still recognize and appreciate the good in them.
I applaud you for all you've through. Or rather for coming through all that you have without bitterness or anger. Cheers.
I dont necessarily love peoples' flaws because it makes them unique, but I am learning to love people in spite of their flaws, learning to get past their flaws and still recognize and appreciate the good in them.
I applaud you for all you've through. Or rather for coming through all that you have without bitterness or anger. Cheers.
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@Magenta That is the thing that bothers me about when people assume. we all have them these challenges in life, and we shouldn't have to prove our challenges for people to accept where we are in our present.
Even where we are now might have challenges that people can't see.
When i look around SW i already see a lot of negativity so that isnt really what i want to bring here.
Even where we are now might have challenges that people can't see.
When i look around SW i already see a lot of negativity so that isnt really what i want to bring here.
WanderingHelplessly · 51-55, M
First off, holy cow, you survived a lot. I agree with you on the privilege rants people go on. It hurts me to see people suffer, but I remember when I never had a place like this to "vent" or be silly.
One reason I like this place is that, with the good, I've found the bad. Have I had my feelings ripped up in my face? It's happened a few times. I know I've maybe done the same without knowing.
I've started looking at life differently. I had someone point out to me a co-worker, whom I actually graduated with. Who causes me grief in every way and might be hurt by something I did a long time ago. He said, "Listen to what she says about back then." I realised she's never matured. She's still thinking like a little girl. "I like him. I'll throw rocks. That will get him to notice me." No, it's made me hate her, and I dislike hating people.
It's like when I was rejected because I don't look a certain way. I like myself. I love that, in time, what is seen as flaws can be worked on. I have a few friends I can count on. I have met some great people here. I've met a few who are trying too hard to hide their insecurities.
One reason I like this place is that, with the good, I've found the bad. Have I had my feelings ripped up in my face? It's happened a few times. I know I've maybe done the same without knowing.
I've started looking at life differently. I had someone point out to me a co-worker, whom I actually graduated with. Who causes me grief in every way and might be hurt by something I did a long time ago. He said, "Listen to what she says about back then." I realised she's never matured. She's still thinking like a little girl. "I like him. I'll throw rocks. That will get him to notice me." No, it's made me hate her, and I dislike hating people.
It's like when I was rejected because I don't look a certain way. I like myself. I love that, in time, what is seen as flaws can be worked on. I have a few friends I can count on. I have met some great people here. I've met a few who are trying too hard to hide their insecurities.
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kodiac · 26-30, M
It's like being content or just happy is something to be ashamed of . Shame seems to be the weapon of choice .For every instance you sighted there will be people saying you should be ashamed. I once long ago posted about being molested, lots of supportive responses ,but there were the well you should have told someone, the you let it happen the oh the shame responses.
@kodiac It is crazy how many people fake happiness for an accomplishment, wanting what you have but saying they can’t because of whatever environmental excuse there is, and because I was able to get here, I am just lucky. No one seems like they want to be happy for others. As soon as you get to a place of privilege, you are no longer an ally but an enemy.
Sorry you got victim-blamed. That isn’t right either. I think people can’t face discomfort, so they try to understand why something happens without facing the reality that there are just bad people in this world doing bad things. So they blame people like us for what we did or didn’t do instead.
Sorry you got victim-blamed. That isn’t right either. I think people can’t face discomfort, so they try to understand why something happens without facing the reality that there are just bad people in this world doing bad things. So they blame people like us for what we did or didn’t do instead.