Just a thought ....
People who like to prey on others and hurt them... How do they know the person they are preying on isn't also crazy... Maybe in a different way. You can't always tell by looking at people .
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Self aware Narcissistic Personality Disorder in therapy here.
In darker times of my life I’ve found myself thinking about who I will target.
1. Trusting, so I know there is less risk of them learning who I am. They’ll take me at face value and won’t look to deep and doxx.
2. Low emotional intelligence so they won’t catch on to what’s happening.
3. Find their trauma so I can use it to my advantage.
4. Find their base desires/love language so I can trickle feed it to them to keep them coming back to me to fulfill my own needs to get more.
We look for weak minded. We also tend to look for crazy and avoid it because crazy tends to draw too much attention. If we get involved with crazy, we keep them at arms length until we find a new supply with lower risk and discard the crazy.
That’s just what I’ve learned about myself in very intense therapy though. I can’t speak for everyone.
In darker times of my life I’ve found myself thinking about who I will target.
1. Trusting, so I know there is less risk of them learning who I am. They’ll take me at face value and won’t look to deep and doxx.
2. Low emotional intelligence so they won’t catch on to what’s happening.
3. Find their trauma so I can use it to my advantage.
4. Find their base desires/love language so I can trickle feed it to them to keep them coming back to me to fulfill my own needs to get more.
We look for weak minded. We also tend to look for crazy and avoid it because crazy tends to draw too much attention. If we get involved with crazy, we keep them at arms length until we find a new supply with lower risk and discard the crazy.
That’s just what I’ve learned about myself in very intense therapy though. I can’t speak for everyone.
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@SpiritSkye Yeah, therapy has been very eye opening. Sometimes it feels like Trying to re-wire a twisted mind is like trying to re-carve the Grand Canyon with a Garden hose, though.
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and EMDR is very helpful. Marriage Counselling and forcing myself to listen to my wife and rationalize what she says is helpful.
Involving family and friends and bringing them into the situation to help our family felt like standing in front of a firing squad but we are all making forward progress.
Learning to see people as…. People has been very hard. It’s very true what they say about Narcissists seeing people as supply.
It’s been a slow journey but since realizing that who I am/was is fundamentally broken and will affect my children… I have to change.
Realizing I was created for a life beyond just satisfying myself was like a switch being flipped and everything I’m doing is like Spider-Man trying to get out of the venom suit.
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and EMDR is very helpful. Marriage Counselling and forcing myself to listen to my wife and rationalize what she says is helpful.
Involving family and friends and bringing them into the situation to help our family felt like standing in front of a firing squad but we are all making forward progress.
Learning to see people as…. People has been very hard. It’s very true what they say about Narcissists seeing people as supply.
It’s been a slow journey but since realizing that who I am/was is fundamentally broken and will affect my children… I have to change.
Realizing I was created for a life beyond just satisfying myself was like a switch being flipped and everything I’m doing is like Spider-Man trying to get out of the venom suit.
@SW-User I understand that. I have been going since I was a kid and while I don't have NPD I still have a lot of issues I can't seem to fix.
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@SpiritSkye our world is broken. We break. One day things will be made right.
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