Random Thoughts From A Post

@thewindupbirdchronicles I really believe in fate. I believe that people are sent to you for different purposes. They might look wrong as partners, but maybe they were sent not to be one. We can't tell while they're here. So we just believe they're the right ones right now.

It's good to have boundaries that which protect our honour, our safety, our health. It's good to have a deal breaker. Sometimes we need to leave. But to expect someone to be everything you need is too much i guess. I think that's why there's this thing they called "my person", it's not just about the willingness to choose each other every day but perhaps the built in compatibility?

@AnotherHe I would replace the word honour with our self-respect, but that is semantics, even when semantics holds meaning too.

Fate is tempting, especially if you are romantic, to want to believe in. If you look upon life as a random chance, some call fate where I'd argue chance is just chance, we learn to lessen what we demand and maybe "need" of another. It could be a different way of saying, if we felt the possibility of there being thousands we could fall in love with, we'd remove this idea that often crushes people far too often.

We'd then just fall for who gave us what we most needed in feeling, instead of weighting ourselves with this idea of "one". It might seem odd of me to compare this way, I know my cats love, they show me every day in all ways possible some humans could never, but their love is not limited upon the ideas they have they need from me.

So really I am saying it's just chance, culmination of lived lives, and the stories we tell ourselves...

...if that makes sense

@thewindupbirdchronicles when you said chance, I saw "luck" which ermm most of us find it as an odd occurrence in life.. fate is not just believing or want to believe in for me, it's knowing that something is well orchestrated with care for each one of us.. it toned down the scream of disappointment when things didn't go as i hoped it would.

Maybe because i see, people who are hopeful, they don't just survive, they live gracefully. To hope for randomness is like gambling, no?

Could we call it falling in love when it only happens through transaction of needs. Is that why when their needs expand, and we can't fulfill them though we have given everything, they fell out of love immediately? Or fell for another instantly?

@valobasa4ever I'm still trying to figure out how to put up images..thank you for this

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@Nihiless we are humans, we have flaws. Like forgetfulness or not a multitasker. But toxic traits are something that intentionally ruin anything and everything that make contact with you. Like abusive, or manipulative.