Putting myself out there…

My last couple of relationships came so naturally. The first of the last three I met on the old experience project. I moved to live with her, and it never felt forced. Second to last, I had moved home and met her at my job I was working at the time. That lasted about a year and a half. Most recently, I also met her at my last job and we were together almost three years. My point in all this is I don’t know how to meet people outside of just being lucky and clicking with people I pass naturally, whether that be work or online. Dating apps are lame…I’m much better at getting to know people and if the spark is there it develops naturally. If not, just friends or acquaintances is fine too. I’ve been single for just over a year now, and I don’t know where to begin to look. Guess I feel dejected….maybe I was just lucky before? I’m not sure. Any advice besides go to a club? lol I’m looking for someone to, if it feels right, settle down with. Not big on going out so dating apps are just full of people who want to go out every weekend and drink. I’m a ‘do whatever as long as we’re together’ kind of person. Idk, guess I’m just feeling a little lost.

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PoetryNEmotion · F

Dating sites suck. I would not recommend anyone from this site either. Just wouldn't work. Omly suggestion would be to try new experiences and new or familiar interests / hobbies. This seems the most reasonable and realistic way to meet suitable people. I cannot think of anymore ways. I too have been looking for a decent partner. Pickings are very slim to none. Good luck. Try to focus on what you have; not what or whom you do not have.

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PoetryNEmotion · F

@Cliffside The allure of online love is difficult to resist. Yet ir rarely lasts. That is from listening to people online. Just not enough substance. As one gets older, random does not cut it. I work full-time nights so my social life is very minimal. I am working on that.

Cliffside · 31-35, M

@PoetryNEmotion Ah working overnight sucks. I can only imagine. And I’ll agree that online isn’t as deep as real life. But I ended up moving there and we lived together for a while. I know it’s the exception and not the rule but life is funny sometimes.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Cliffside Funny, yes. But not sustaining. Best of luck. I met 3 men who were friends from EP a long time ago. The first was the best. The other two? Losers.

Caleidoscope · F

If your relationships are ending in a year or two ,what could be the base problem here ?Is it you or your partner or both ?If you rectify that issue you’d be better to search and find the next one .

Cliffside · 31-35, M

@Caleidoscope Common denominator is me. Guess I’ve hit my brick wall, so to speak.

swirlie · 31-35, F

I've noticed that your relationships have lasted about 2 years each on average. There must have been a common link between all three relationships for them to have ended after about 2 years each. Would you agree?

Cliffside · 31-35, M

@swirlie You’d be right. I’ve stopped growing as a person, I think.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@Cliffside
That doesn't answer my question. What was a common factor that ended all 3 relationships after 2 years?

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