could this be happening

a lot of my life i often felt that women are being told to avoid me and not interact with me? because i have never had much luck in relationships or interactions with women, in the past when i encountered girls online or offline to talk to, it wasn't long before they were off and i never heard from them again...and in daily life, women/ girls seem to avoid me wherever i go...and indeed i have never had a relationship with a girl..even though i had quite a lot of flings with girls in my late teens.

could women be being instructed to not interact with me online or offline? or is it all in my mind and the reality is is that i'm just not that appealing to women?

i do get paranoid sometimes as well....any thoughts?

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DrWatson · 70-79, M Best Comment

Who would be instructing them? And why would women listen to those instructions?

I think you are imagining this.

Is it possible to talk with a woman you know and trust and ask her honest opinion about why you might not be encountering success?

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@DrWatson thanks for your constructive thought, yes i have a sister who i could ask and confide in, maybe she could give me some insight, and yes i do think im imagining much of this.

SatyrService · M

Many people alive now especially those under 35. Half because of our culture of little screens. No longer spend enough time interacting in person, especially when they were young, the time when you’re supposed to learn how to read subtle cues. From faces body language etc. Thus, many lack the ability to read those subtle cues? This is particularly true Of males.
If as a kid you spent more time on video games then talking with and playing with your age peers? Odds are you’re socially impaired

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@SatyrService i understood your point, but no, as a kid i was very social, had friends and was always outside playing, its as i got into my teens i developed paranoia, but i don't believe i'm socially stunted at all, i'm a reserved person but can be quite social when i'm ready, i put all this down to my paranoia.

SatyrService · M

@durinsBane1983 You were doing it right
But many did not do as you did
Much as my own generation, was glued to the television. And many of them suffered thereby. So too, and to a greater degree, people who grew up on the game boy. Instead of going out to play. Did not gain what you and I happily have

Aysel · F

Well, you do have a lot of wild views, so that could be why they avoid you.

OogieBoogie · F

I think its paranoia is some sort . Or it could be your mind self fulfilling an outcome you subconsciously expect.

It's not unusual for our minds to play games with us and self sabotage.🤷

bijouxbroussard · F

Unless you live in a really small town and have never left it’s unlikely anyone’s "put the word out" on you. But tbh, if you’ve led with conversations on the kinds of topics you’ve posted about here, I could see that being off-putting. 🙁

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@bijouxbroussard if its the case that i'm simply 'unappealing' to women that i can live with., as i have my views and i stick by them, i won't change to be accepted, ever.

bijouxbroussard · F

@durinsBane1983 Okay, then I’m not sure what the post is about. There’s no way every woman on the planet has "boycotted" you. Either you just haven’t found her yet, or something you’re doing isn’t working. But the only common denominator is you.

PoetryNEmotion · F

What you are saying is, honestly, total bullshit. No one tells a woman who to talk to online or offline. You do seem paranoid. I think you need to see a counselor or a psychiatrist to see why you have these views and how to handle them either by therapy or by meds or a combination of both. Does mental illness run in your family? Your views are, as someone else commented, on the extreme side. Good luck.

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@PoetryNEmotion you can give an opinion without being insulting, try that next time. no mental problems don't run in my family.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@durinsBane1983 Just curious. You asked for feedback. I am offering some. There is still a stigma attached to the subject. I was asking if other members of your family had them. You need not take offense.

pancakeslam · 46-50, M

I dunno. If you can afford a ticket, Panama has lots of hookers.

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