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I bite my tongue to avoid saying mean things, though i don't see having an opinion as something mean. What i like or dislike isn't a complement or attack. I do recognize few people share my perspective and othen have thin skin. I'll hold back, but i won't lie. Ask me something and ill awnser honestly always.

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TESSA111 · 51-55, F

Always be honest then time is not wasted. Just remember there's a thin line between honest and rude it depends I think how you phrase it.

Arorin · M

@TESSA111 i could phrase something in 100 different ways, and have a negative or positive outcome on all of them. I can't control or predict anothers reaction. The root of it all comes down to what we individualisticly like and dislike, which shouldnt be precieved with a positive or a negative. It should be seen as a a commonality that we all have. It would be best for people to learn to overcome their insecurites, and to not give power to my opinions.

However, i realize this is a tall order to expect from the majority of people, so as you say i do try to phrase in a way i think will go over better.

TESSA111 · 51-55, F

@Arorin if people are sensitive it's their problem entirely I guess I offend a lot of people all the time I guess but at least they know where I stand on things.

Arorin · M

@TESSA111 Strategically speaking, it doesnt do me any good for people to know where i stand on anything. I'll usually keep the bridges i need while i need them. Of course, im mostly speaking in the work force world. I don't get close with workmates.

TESSA111 · 51-55, F

@Arorin me neither I'm only there to do my job. But I still tell them what I think about things that concerns me or that I have to manage. Makes it easier in the end for all. I don't care about bridges really we forced in a work situation I did not choose you to work with as you did not choose me stick to the rules and get the job done I respect your opinion and agree or disagree but I'm not going to keep quiet if I don't agree as long as its noted.