If you don't look like a real life Disney prince or a real life sexy male Anime character you can't call fat women ugly okay?
31-35, F
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SomeMichGuy · M
Linseyonthereal · 31-35, F
@SomeMichGuy Do you have a good judgment when it comes to to women's looks?
SomeMichGuy · M
@Linseyonthereal You gave your thought.
I disagree.
We can each have our notions, but, at the end of the day, you can't dictate such things.
If the past several years have taught us anything, it's that eminently unqualified people offer up their opinions left and right.
If you want to have an aneurysm, obsess about this, but life is short & lovely & need not be filled with hard stances on undecidable questions.
I'm sorry if this hurts you, but I guess guys might have given you personal feedback which you didn't like. If that happened...remember
• A study long ago found that people are much harsher in email than in person...and that's when they *know* the recipient!
• Some people love to sow unhappiness & discord; I had an aunt who--at least in family get-togethers--was never happy unless & until others were UNhappy (and esp. if she had caused it).
• Don't give the power over how you feel about yourself to others; and esp. don't give it to random strangers on the internet who have never met you, spent any time getting to know you, etc. Your own uniqueness cannot be approximated by some words, sone photos, etc. Human beings are richer than that. *You* are richer than that.
• If you put a photo out...be willing to be judged superficially. Some guys will applaud ANYthing to try to get you to show more; I often try to give some positive feedback, even "hearting" photos of guys who are getting no attention. But putting a photo out invites a shallow evaluation.
• Realize that, for ANY type of woman, there are guys who are "into" that. You think your feet are big & gross? Sone guy is into that! You don't like a muffin top? Some guys get aroused by that! You think your hair looks funny or your face is odd? Some guys dig that! You worry that your boobs are too small, too big, too non-existent, too flat, too floppy, too asymmetric, too unremarkable, etc., etc., etc.--some guys love EACH of those.
So *you* are EXACTLY what turns on some set of guys, even if you aren't getting the responses you want *here*.
• This site is a sample of people, and not always the nicest, the smartest, the most generous of people; so don't get overly invested in the nonsense of people who might well be a VERY skewed sample.
Take care, be well, don't stress about things you can't control.
I disagree.
We can each have our notions, but, at the end of the day, you can't dictate such things.
If the past several years have taught us anything, it's that eminently unqualified people offer up their opinions left and right.
If you want to have an aneurysm, obsess about this, but life is short & lovely & need not be filled with hard stances on undecidable questions.
I'm sorry if this hurts you, but I guess guys might have given you personal feedback which you didn't like. If that happened...remember
• A study long ago found that people are much harsher in email than in person...and that's when they *know* the recipient!
• Some people love to sow unhappiness & discord; I had an aunt who--at least in family get-togethers--was never happy unless & until others were UNhappy (and esp. if she had caused it).
• Don't give the power over how you feel about yourself to others; and esp. don't give it to random strangers on the internet who have never met you, spent any time getting to know you, etc. Your own uniqueness cannot be approximated by some words, sone photos, etc. Human beings are richer than that. *You* are richer than that.
• If you put a photo out...be willing to be judged superficially. Some guys will applaud ANYthing to try to get you to show more; I often try to give some positive feedback, even "hearting" photos of guys who are getting no attention. But putting a photo out invites a shallow evaluation.
• Realize that, for ANY type of woman, there are guys who are "into" that. You think your feet are big & gross? Sone guy is into that! You don't like a muffin top? Some guys get aroused by that! You think your hair looks funny or your face is odd? Some guys dig that! You worry that your boobs are too small, too big, too non-existent, too flat, too floppy, too asymmetric, too unremarkable, etc., etc., etc.--some guys love EACH of those.
So *you* are EXACTLY what turns on some set of guys, even if you aren't getting the responses you want *here*.
• This site is a sample of people, and not always the nicest, the smartest, the most generous of people; so don't get overly invested in the nonsense of people who might well be a VERY skewed sample.
Take care, be well, don't stress about things you can't control.