Is it fair

So I met someone online over 3 months, we started talking and we like it each other , we then started talking about meeting and we decided to meet in Mexico 🇲🇽. So in preparation to us going to Mexico , he bought his ticket and he paid accommodation, I also then bought my ticket .

After that we realised I had to have visa and the flights were already booked. We decided that we would postpone the trip post two weeks.. he then booked another flight and accommodation. And the told us in Mexican embassy I cannot get visa .. I was so devastated and hurt .. and I felt bad that he spent money for nothing . I proposed to give him the money back which was 1000 $ and he refused ..


Down the line we decided we will do another trip to Barbados 🇧🇧.. and he said okay u will pay for accommodation and I agreed .. one of these days I lied and said I had already paid for the accommodation while I didn’t . It was wrong of me I know and I opened up to him . I apologised and I said I will book it .. he first said he understood the. One day later he started Reminding me about the money that he had just spent and then he also said I should give him the 1000 back ( the total expenditure for the previous trip )

I then asked him since im paying for accommodation now 1,300 should I also give u back the money too? He then asked me that how can I ask that .. that I should be technical

Sorry if I just juggled around words , please anyone give me any advices or answers or what .. is this a fair game on me because I think I’m crazy ..

I don’t know how I feel about everything