Do you ever think it's sort of cruel that we have the ability to feel bad for those that wrong us

no, its cruel of them to do wrong. its not cruel to have feelings of sympathy.. tho you shouldn't stand by them or cover for them or excuse them when they do cruel things just because you care for them .. in that case it would be cruel to yourself to join forces with them against yourself .. like what happened to gabby and so many others like her.. unfortunately