I Find It Intriguing To Reveal Deep Thoughts And Feelings
Throughout our lives we are taught not to make people sad or mad. Is it any wonder why many of us become people pleasers? Then is it any wonder why as adults we suffer because people are never pleased?
Think to the time you were a child.
“Susie you need to act kindly or God will be mad at you, you don’t want to make God sad after all he’s done for you!”
What does this do psychologically? It makes you think that YOU can control how someone feels, and you can’t, and if an omnipotent creator exists you for sure can’t control him/it.
“If you make God sad he will punish you! You don’t want to be punished!”
Then this is fear. You don’t act because you love God but out of fear of what he could do to YOU. So this has nothing to do with God but what you want for YOU. Do you even “love” God or just ourselves, seeking after consequences that won’t hurt us from those around us?
“If you make God happy he will reward you with blessings!”
Now your acts aren’t genuine. If you do what you do knowing you will get nothing in return but your personal satisfaction (which is still seeking your own pleasure) then that is somewhat more genuine than, “Yeah I’m doing this... God show up now, where is my prize?!”
Would you want to be in the same room with someone that did not please any of your five senses, who was not productive in any way, and wasn’t harmless and actually enjoy it? Of course not. Would we follow a God who wouldn’t give us pleasure if not now in the afterlife, who had no power or influence, and who would give no one a blissful paradise after death? Here is how you can test yourself if you would or not. By seeing if you would put up with a person who always says ,”No”, and isn’t particularly harmless.
As long as we are human beings with the five senses of sight, smell, hearing, touch, and taste we will always gravitate towards that we find pleasing based on our desires. We are naturally selfish. And we need to be selfish to survive or else everyone could do with us what they wanted, without limit, and we wouldn’t be alive. We will always want others conditionally based on how pleasing they are to US. And others will only want us according to how pleasing we are to THEM. This reality will never change, it can’t be changed.
This is why we are people pleasers. In fear of painful consequences for ourselves. Yet when people begin to take advantage and our life depends on it, then we don’t know what to do. This world is filled with people trapped in situations they don’t know how to escape even if they wanted to. Some of us are lucky to be born in the families we were born into. Others aren’t so lucky, and they feel trapped in a dreadful situation they wish to escape but don’t know how because the next human will be the same: “loving” you conditionally IF you prove productive/useful or convenient for them.
Do you get it now? Do you see why people suffer? Why we all feel trapped regardless of our situations? Why? Because we CAN NOT control people or how they feel. We can’t make someone happy or sad. Their desires are different from our desires. If anything we are the only ones in our own head, we are the only ones who can freeze space, time, our thoughts and enjoy the flower in front of us.
We live in an apathetic world guys. The attention given to us is not genuine. It is either given because we are found pleasing in some way or because people are paid to act like they care. We have come far from what this world used to be though. We can make our experience in this apathetic world a much better one at least in the words that come out of our mouths when describing others. We can make our experience in this apathetic world better by at least understanding the peril of human existence and cultivating a sense of empathy, even though we “love” some people from a distance because all we each care about is our own self preservation if we want to live. We can make our experience in this apathetic world by showing kindness yet NOT EXPECTING any sort of reciprocal action from others, just be you for the heck of it, so what if no one notices.
Thank you for being you. Thank you for pushing through. Thank you for being alive and being an example and inspiration for many you haven’t even noticed. I find that in our world today expressing ourselves through writing is one of the most freeing of self-expressions, it can connect us, bridge gaps, and make us reach out to those who feel the same.
I am thankful for being taught how to read and write. If only I had the selflessness to be like the construction workers or those who serve others, like maids, who are looked down upon and yet do jobs none of us would want to do, because we’d rather be comfortable behind a desk, in air conditioning, using Excel in our computers. These people inspire me, and they may never even know it! Why? Their will to live isn’t diminished by not being placed on a pedestal, and that, that takes character!
Think to the time you were a child.
“Susie you need to act kindly or God will be mad at you, you don’t want to make God sad after all he’s done for you!”
What does this do psychologically? It makes you think that YOU can control how someone feels, and you can’t, and if an omnipotent creator exists you for sure can’t control him/it.
“If you make God sad he will punish you! You don’t want to be punished!”
Then this is fear. You don’t act because you love God but out of fear of what he could do to YOU. So this has nothing to do with God but what you want for YOU. Do you even “love” God or just ourselves, seeking after consequences that won’t hurt us from those around us?
“If you make God happy he will reward you with blessings!”
Now your acts aren’t genuine. If you do what you do knowing you will get nothing in return but your personal satisfaction (which is still seeking your own pleasure) then that is somewhat more genuine than, “Yeah I’m doing this... God show up now, where is my prize?!”
Would you want to be in the same room with someone that did not please any of your five senses, who was not productive in any way, and wasn’t harmless and actually enjoy it? Of course not. Would we follow a God who wouldn’t give us pleasure if not now in the afterlife, who had no power or influence, and who would give no one a blissful paradise after death? Here is how you can test yourself if you would or not. By seeing if you would put up with a person who always says ,”No”, and isn’t particularly harmless.
As long as we are human beings with the five senses of sight, smell, hearing, touch, and taste we will always gravitate towards that we find pleasing based on our desires. We are naturally selfish. And we need to be selfish to survive or else everyone could do with us what they wanted, without limit, and we wouldn’t be alive. We will always want others conditionally based on how pleasing they are to US. And others will only want us according to how pleasing we are to THEM. This reality will never change, it can’t be changed.
This is why we are people pleasers. In fear of painful consequences for ourselves. Yet when people begin to take advantage and our life depends on it, then we don’t know what to do. This world is filled with people trapped in situations they don’t know how to escape even if they wanted to. Some of us are lucky to be born in the families we were born into. Others aren’t so lucky, and they feel trapped in a dreadful situation they wish to escape but don’t know how because the next human will be the same: “loving” you conditionally IF you prove productive/useful or convenient for them.
Do you get it now? Do you see why people suffer? Why we all feel trapped regardless of our situations? Why? Because we CAN NOT control people or how they feel. We can’t make someone happy or sad. Their desires are different from our desires. If anything we are the only ones in our own head, we are the only ones who can freeze space, time, our thoughts and enjoy the flower in front of us.
We live in an apathetic world guys. The attention given to us is not genuine. It is either given because we are found pleasing in some way or because people are paid to act like they care. We have come far from what this world used to be though. We can make our experience in this apathetic world a much better one at least in the words that come out of our mouths when describing others. We can make our experience in this apathetic world better by at least understanding the peril of human existence and cultivating a sense of empathy, even though we “love” some people from a distance because all we each care about is our own self preservation if we want to live. We can make our experience in this apathetic world by showing kindness yet NOT EXPECTING any sort of reciprocal action from others, just be you for the heck of it, so what if no one notices.
Thank you for being you. Thank you for pushing through. Thank you for being alive and being an example and inspiration for many you haven’t even noticed. I find that in our world today expressing ourselves through writing is one of the most freeing of self-expressions, it can connect us, bridge gaps, and make us reach out to those who feel the same.
I am thankful for being taught how to read and write. If only I had the selflessness to be like the construction workers or those who serve others, like maids, who are looked down upon and yet do jobs none of us would want to do, because we’d rather be comfortable behind a desk, in air conditioning, using Excel in our computers. These people inspire me, and they may never even know it! Why? Their will to live isn’t diminished by not being placed on a pedestal, and that, that takes character!
31-35, F
